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writes:I'm having a hard time connecting with my fiancé's family. They are really nice people, an I know that it can take me a long time to warm up to people and I think they are aware of that about me, but him and I have been together for 3 years and I just don't feel like I am at the level of comfort, particularly with his sister and mother, that I'd like to be. It's not for lack of trying, cause just recently we went to one of those pottery classes together for my birthday, but even then I found it really hard to let go and be myself around them. I often wonder if they talk about me behind my back because his mom does like to gossip, and I wish to know how they truly feel about me because I don't want them to think that I'm boring or not interested in having any kind of relationship with them. I just can't seem to open up! Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (29 July 2014):
 You're over thinking everything and it's causing you to panic. Just relax. Perhaps spending more time with them will be good. Try to let loose and be yourself because when you over think you prevent yourself from being yourself because you're always trying to get into their heads and figure out what they think. Maybe you're trying too hard to be liked but failing to show who you really are and in this way you're missing doing what will really help you guys bond with each other. Don't worry about being accepted or liked by them or being interesting enough for them. Everyone is different. They find different things interesting. Be yourself and everything will soon fall into place. Good luck OP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2014): You could probably try hanging out more with them, get to know them a bit better, but don't rush if you aren't a 100% confident about it. just make sure that you are comfortable around them. Try find things you have in common and it will be easy from there.
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