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writes: I have this man I have known for about four months. I am a month pregnant by him. When I told him, he asked me to terminate. I was against the idea and I suggested marriage. He said he was not ready, but could support the child. Out of frustration I told him that he should not then tie me down if he is not interested in marriage and I told him it was over (I regretted). He then started acting cold, frustrated and upset when I asked him why he told me that he had financial problems and that he was being dumped by me. I told him, I didn’t really mean it as I was just confused and emotional. We spent weekend together and he was very loving, but surprisingly, he told me he needed a break as he was feeling emotionally confused and needed to be alone for about 1-6 months. I pleaded with him and he insisted. I now feel very frustrated and rejected. I feel its unfaire for him to do that now when I need him most. Am confused, don’t know what he really wants and feel he is unfair. Do you think he still loves me? Would someone who cares about their girl friend ask for a break at such a time (pregnant) when he sees the confusion am feeling in my life? Should I go back and talk to him again? Should wait for him or simply move on? I love him so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): The brother is definitely hurting..... you most likely hurt his feelings by telling him you didnt move on.I dont mean to bring in my own personal issues but as a man, I went through the same and honestly felt very betrayed when my partner asked for a break... I just never looked at her the same.... sometimes a break could be very detrimental to a relationship.Now that there is a baby coming... please give him time and let his anger subside... Talk things over when you are both calm and sober
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This man clearly has no intention of being a willing father to his child, nor a husband to you. He enjoyed having sex with you while there were no complications but as soon as you got pregnant the fun stopped for him. He's obviously trying to distance himself from you now that there's a baby on the way and I doubt that he wants anything to do with it. You may love him, but I don't think he loves you - he only loved the sex with you. If he was madly in love with you he would have been overjoyed at the thought of you being the mother of his child.I think if I were you I'd start preparing for the possibility of being a single mother. He may say now that he'll support the child but I wonder if he's just saying empty words to appease you? If you don't think you can cope with all that, a termination or maybe adoption could be the way to go. As things are at the moment I don't think there's much chance of a future together with him because he clearly doesn't want that.
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