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*opdogg83
writes:Been with this girl for 4 years now and suddenly things are going down the drain. To cut the long story short, she bought a house and wanted to move in, being this is my first realtionship I was scared and freaked out and told her I was not ready for that, then things started going down hill. Finally I agreed to move in couple of months later. All of a sudden she is telling me that she does not know if that's what she wants and totally freaked out about the whole suitation and started saying crazy stuff about me and comparing me to her ex who was her first love/relationship/ and first to pop her cherry. Now she says she does not know what she wants and needs space to think and stuff and does not know if she loves me. Don't know what to do but am not the kind of guy to be punked and thinking about bailing but she means a lot to me. My question is what should do and what does this mean. I have not talked to her in like 12 days cause I am not upset but hurt.I still have keys to her house and stuff and the last time I sent her an email and told her I wanted to return them and some other stuff. she did not reply so I let it be. Some Good advice would be great right now.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 November 2008):
You are being very selfish about this whole thing.
You freak out about it all - that's fine.
She freaks out about it all - and you refuse to talk to her and say you want to give your keys back and dump her.
She needs space so stop making this all about you and talk to her about how she is feeling and if this can be fixed.
If you really feel you have to put yourself first then go round, drop her stuff off and tell her that you can't handle this, and are going to end it now.
You say yourself this is because it's your first serious relationship, so admit you can't cope and leave her to find someone old enough to deal with adult relationships.
Good Luck!! xx
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