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writes: Have been having a few irritating games being carried out in our situationship. Just annoying. I felt I was being toyed withI said it must stop and now he is ignoring me and turning away when he comes near me.Am I being out of line expecting the games to stop. Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (3 January 2022):
 situationship
/?siCH?'waSH?nSHip/
noun
a romantic or sexual relationship that is not considered to be formal or established.
"I'm trying to turn our situationship into something more serious"
New word for me, Thanks.
It appears to me that he has decided that the situationship has ended. I can see how he could have taken your ultimatum to mean that.
You were not out of line to want an irritating behavior to stop. It is possible that the new behavior, "ignoring me and turning away when he comes near me", is a new game. Or even a continuation of the old game that you did not spell out very well. Here are some other possibilities.
He understood, This must stop, to mean that the relationship must stop.
He doesn't know how to run a relationship without those games.
The game was all he was really interested in.
I do agree with the other aunts and uncles that the relationship (that hasn't earned that title yet) is probably not worth the effort required just to figure out what he is doing now.
You were right, it must end. Would it really be bad if it did?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2022): You sound very childish and naive. It's obvious in any situation that if you are not happy you walk away. Kids of ten know that. Why do you have to ask people such a simple thing? No wonder people play games with you, you are ripe for the picking, a willing silly victim.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (2 January 2022):
 There isn't much to go on here, so I'll answer in general terms.
If you have to ask/tell someone to stop playing games with you then they aren't the person for you.
You wouldn't tell someone to stop punching you in the face and stay with them, would you?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 January 2022):
 Are you out of line to ask for games to stop? No.
Does it mean he will respect your wishes? No.
Why not just END "whatever" it is you got going on with this guy and block, remove, ignore and delete ANYTHING pertaining to this guy?
He isn't willing to stop with his games. You aren't willing to play his games - Ergo, you two are not well suited for each other.
It seems like he really doesn't care for you, you are just entertainment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2022): Why are you putting up with it? Seems to me if he won't stop playing games, you've got a good reason to dump him.
He's not taking things seriously, but you insist on forcing a relationship to happen. The ball is in your court. You don't have to put-up with the games, and it's senseless and a waste of time messing with someone who's toying with you.
I'd say you're more into him, than he's into you.
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