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writes:Im sad and confused, I want to know why my ex doesn't want to be my friend. He says he loves me one day and then he takes it back. I don't know what to think! I just feel he wont ever come back and i wish I had him back, all I do is cry, i barely eat, I write in a notebook all day, sometimes I even stare blindly into space some have said. I'm really heart broken, the break up was about him saying to me he stopped loving me like a BF if not started to love me like a friend. How does that happen? I used to cook for him! I made him cheesecake and apple pie's and everything he asked me for. I gave him any gift he asked me for Christmas or valentines day. Can some one tell me what happened? i want him back so so much, Ive dream t about him lately and it just makes me miss his kisses and his gentle touch. Can something tell me what I did wrong? What happened to him and To us? We had one argument about him going to the movies in which the argument started cause I said " Who's going with you? ". Did I do something wrong , please someone tell me or did he just loose a treasure like most other men say...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): Hey!I've been going through the same thing (and I'm about the same age as you).. except that my situation was a bit more complicated. Anyway, we'll not go there. Point is, like the person below said, you need to believe that things will get better. You're not at fault here, really. All of us, at some point or the other, fall in love with these pricks, get hurt and feel miserable. And there's probably no way to avoid that. The only thing you can do is believe me when I say, it's not your fault (at least from what you said). And as for the notebooks.. it would probably be best for you to get rid of them. See if you could move the furniture around your room or something. Try to brighten up your room.Pamper yourself a little bit. (trust me, you deserve it!)Learn something new, like playing an instrument or oil painting or something you're interested in. Put in a lot of effort into whatever you do. And trust me, he's the one who lost you! (at least, it's what I tell myself every day ;])take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): He definately lost a treasure sweetie :).
You did nothing wrong. Don't ever let yourself believe you did something wrong. You didn't.
Somethings just don't work out.
Let me tell you this. I know how much you are hurting now but it's time to try to move on and stop dwelling on it. Listen imagine the point where you and your bf started dating. Then go back three months before that. Could you have predicted what would happen in three months? Even a few weeks before you all started dating???
What I'm saying is that it will get better. You're going to meet a guy who will appreciate you and most likely you're going to love this new guy ten times more than you ever loved your ex. It'll happen, trust me. You aren't trash and you are definately worth it.
Just try to say away from your ex right now to let things cool down. Then mayb e you two can be friends, unlikely. It's unlikely because it's very difficult for two people who cared about each other to be able to go back to being jsut friends. But it'll be okay without him. I know it doesn't seme like it but it will.
Stop beign so depressive and writing in notebooks being sad. You can't dwell over these things. They happen and you have to move on. Just get back out there and have fun. Give yourself a peptalk and go hang out with friends. Sooner or later Mr. Right will come along and you'll wonder why you spentso much time being sad over this ex.
I know this because it happened to me about two years ago.
Looking back at the guy I was with compared to the guy I'm with now. I can't help but laugh. I love this new bf sooo incredible more than the ex. (At the time I thought I loved my ex sooo much... how things can chagne in a moment lol). I could care less about what my ex is doing right now. But my new bf means the world to me.
But sweetie you don't need a bf to be happy. Always remember that. You've just gotta be happy with what God gave you :). Because honestly you seem like a real sweet girl. Someone loving and caring and I bet you shine.
Your bf was a big time idiot for losing you.
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