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51-59,
*izziej
writes:Am I wasting my time with a guy who possibly only wants frienship?About 5 weeks ago I met a guy ( a friend's brother). He is the same age as me and is just going through the final stages of his divorce. He has 2 children. I was attracted to him and was delighted to get a call from him a few days later asking me out on a date. For about 2 weeks we went on about 7 dates. They were quite affectionate but not particularly physical.I have my own home and quite a successful career and have never been married. At the moment he is just in the process of buying a house and does not have as good a job as me. This does not matter to me at all. However, he feels he has nothing to offer me.I had already a holiday booked when I met him. The night before I went I saw him and we had a really nice evening. His parting comment was that he was glad we were such good friends. I got a hug as he left.While I was on holiday, we exchanged texts every day. However, I got back on Wednesday and have not seen him yet and am unlikely to see him for a couple of days. We have had long phone conversations.I plan to talk to him when I see him to find out whether he sees me as a friend or more than a friend. I like him too much to handle this situation as just a friendship.
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reader, Snazzle +, writes (26 July 2008):
It seems as though this is quite a difficult situation. He may feel as though he is not ready to enter into a full relationship when he has children to consider and also alot to deal with, as children can be very challenging and need alot of time. At this moment in time mabye he is letting the relationship develop before jumping into anything. TIME is the key to any relationship and it may be a year before he wants to go any further. he may still be dwelling on previous relationships with the mother of his children and you may need to break the barrier. just keep in contact and give him hints that you want more but dont push him into anything. x x
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