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writes:First off, I have trust issues, I have, as I like to put it, been scarred by women in the past.Never cheated on ( and trust me I know ) but just lied to, and I had to cut the rope.Recently though I've chosen to ignore my paranoia, it doesn't solve anything.So whenever I get in touch with a girl past just a few dates and we're a couple, I choose to ignore my instincts of over questioning, I will remember some obvious facts and keep those in the back, but I won't be obsessive, and in my opinion most guys are.On to my current situation, I've been seeing this girl for just over 2 months, since I was still in college I saw her four times the first week, and since then roughly once a week.Now that I'm finished, I see her twice a week, I like it like that. She calls me sometimes, and I call her, but nothing like ten texts a day, I don't even call every day. She says she likes the breaks. She told me early on she has a lot of male friends, and, ignoring my instincts, I choose to not care, although I did tell her most of her male friends probably want to nail her and she laughed and said she knows.She's very direct btw, unlike some women, she says whats on her mind, and I do too, even if we know it might be insulting to the other, we're both lighthearted and don't get too literal.Since I finished college I notice more of her weekly schedule, she works two days, has high school and takes it seriously and the rest is what she makes it.Now she told me from day 1 how she's a day to day type of person, this pertains to me in that she sometimes moves our date plans to the next day, not always but sometimes.Now I never question her reason for moving our plans, but should I?Also, I don't use facebook as often as some other people, but I did check her wall the other day, and she had this guy send her a message calling her babe and saying he missed her too.Now, again, I ignore my instinct of taking this seriously, should I? A couple weeks ago I saw two guys call her hun, which she doesn't use often herself.I have not met any of her friends and she insists her parents don't like her bringing friends to her house so she's still not let me in her house.I'm 20, she's 17.In total we've been on 11 dates.And we haven't had sex yet, which after 2 months I would bail if not for the fact she claims to only have had sex with two guys who were long term boyfriends.
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reader, blahblah666  +, writes (1 May 2009):
 ok well after reading this i have to ask. what kind of girls do you go for?? my boyfriend went out with a few blonde bombshells or in my opinion bimbos. they screwed him over, broke his heart, cheated on him, lied and god knows what else. now, im not exactly your populasr type. i have black hair, average height average weight, i dont like drinking, i dont smoke, i dont party too often. i usually just hang out with my family. im completely the oppisite of what my guy used to date. we are now happy, im pregnant and we have our ups and downs but have managed to stick together through anything. if you said to her, bet these guys wanna nail you and she said who knows and laughed. thats pretty... umm yeh. if my boyfriend told me that id be like.. yer well they aint gonna or ill kick their heads in! haha you see, you do come across as being paranoid but thats probably because of all the crap you have endured. look for the sweet, quiet, shy girl and i am sure you will find what you are after. dont talk too much about sex until your atleast 3 months into the relationship or unless she brings it up. dont rip a girl off even if its a joke and dont expect 10 texts per day. i send 300000 to my boyfriend while he was at work and it isnt important. all thats important is you get a well respected girl who you can trust and who trusts you.
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