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writes: Am I too needy? I have this problem. there is a guy that I have known for 3 years. I am head over heels in love. I still get butterflies in my stomach, I still cant stop smiling when i hear his name or his voice. I’m getting giddy writing about him. point is, im more in love than i have even been. im a gentle kind of person. he knows me to be soft, well tempered, and very domestic. On the other side im a hard headed business women, I ride motorcycles and am certainly not afraid to break a nail. The problem is, that we work together. We have gotten very close yes, BUT, am I too much? I can’t walk by his office without stopping in, I make him tea ever morning and lunch, I see him about 5 times a day. My hard headed father once said that even if a man loves you he will miss you when you are gone, he will miss you more on day 2, 3 and 4..... he’s very affectionate towards me. I don’t feel that he is pushing away, but from somebody else’s point of view (a mans preferably) would things get better if I was around less? Reply to this Question
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reader, banannine +, writes (21 March 2007):
banannine is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks so much,
him and i are friends. he is going though a divorce right now. yes of course i want more, but the way that i see it, he knows how i feel. he tells me he loves me also. he buys me flowers, kisses me, gives me affection. so im happy with what i have. if Mr. Right crosses my path one day and this is still at friendship, then i can move on. but now, why walk away from a good thing? i just wonder, if im around less, would he be more willing to come see me? would we be able to spend more time outside of work together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): Stop running after him! Making him tea! You are not a slave. Back off and wait for him to make you a cup of tea. They can do it! If he really wants to be with you he will miss you and coming looking for you. Just stay out of his way for a while and see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): Hi banannine
You have so completely fallen for this guy haven't you? :)
In answer to your question, I think your dad is right. When a man loves a women of course he misses her when he can not be with her. The same is true for women, isn't it?
What is the relationship between you and this man? It sounds to me that you in a situation where you want him to tell you that your feelings are mutual?
I don't think you are too much at all, you actually paint a very happy picture of you both. Is it that you want more from him? I feel that if you do then you are going to have to be the one to take this friendship to the next level by asking him as he for whatever reason isn't going to approach you about it.
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reader, Midge  +, writes (21 March 2007):
 Not a man sorry, but I think if you backed off a little, if he were really interested in you, he would make the effort to come and pop into your office.
Absence does make the heart grow fonder, and any relationship that does blossom from that will be better than you have ever known!
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