A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me recently for reasons unknown. I still have very strong feelings for her a month later and we still keep in touch and get on really well. So the other day I asked her to meet up with me and I asked her if we could get back together, I made sure I didn't sound desperate etc and she replied 'I'm not sure, I don't know if I'm ready, it doesn't feel like we've been broken up that long'. We'd been broken up about a month and a half when I asked her out again. I just accepted her answer as I didn't want to cause an argument or end up begging, which wouldn't help at all. What I want to know is do you think I still have a chance of getting back with her? At the moment we're still friends and we're meeting up later in the week for a few drinks, so there isn't any awkwardness between now I've asked her out again.
View related questions:
broke up, get back together Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, raiders  +, writes (22 April 2010):
 I'm glad you got the closure that you needed to be able to move on. Good luck in future relationships!!!!
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk so we met up and I asked her straight do you think we have a chance of getting back together and she said I don't think so. So I asked her why she broke up with me because I need closure so I can move on and we went round in circles for a bit and eventually she told me I was starting to annoy her, so naturally I asked her what I did that annoyed her so much and she just got angry and wouldn't tell me and I was like I only want you to tell me and then we can leave it at that and so that I can get closure. Then we argued for a bit more and now we're not speaking, so overall it didn't go too well, but I think I can move on with my life now. But thanks for the advice everyone
...............................
A
female
reader, raiders +, writes (20 April 2010):
If you are meeting up for drinks why don't you take that opportunity and ask her back. There could only be two answers a yes of a no and only she can give it to you. The best outcome is she gives you a yes and you guys make it work, or she says no and you two move on going your separate ways. So give it a try.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOne thing I forgot to add was that after I asked her out again, she said to me 'thanks for telling me', I don't know if that's relevant or important in any way, but I thought I should just add that in.
...............................
A
female
reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 Personally I don't think rekindled relationships work. You need to find out why she broke it off with you. If you do get back together how can you improve if you don't know what went wrong in the first place?
...............................
A
female
reader, raiders +, writes (20 April 2010):
There is a chance that she just don't want you as a boyfriend. She might like you as a person and do not want to loose your friendship but might not be interested in starting a relationship with you. I would ask her straight out if there is a chance you two can become a couple again.
...............................
A
male
reader, quickhelper +, writes (20 April 2010):
sounds like you probably do have a chance.
she might have just wanted to know that you still care.
you were right in trying to just take the 1st step.
remember, you or her cant read minds and figure out what the other is thinking.
...............................
|
