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writes:So I've been dating this guy for 4 months now, he seems really sweet and just the perfect gentleman he's Romantic and very caring.He rents a one bedroom and his cousin 14-15yr old girl (pretty, nice little body) comes to visit him and I was on the phone to him and he just told me she's asleep In his bed and his laying next to her. I told him to be careful and not allow her in anymore he needs to think about himself what if she goes out and says he's touched her he could go to jail for that. He won't listen to me and says their related and nothing like that sort could happen and told me he doesn't want to talk about it. I think this is totally wrong and I'm really questioning him and I our relationship. He's ranged me several times but I refuse to speak to him.Wtf? Why would her mother allow her to visit him when she knows he lives a one bedroom and why not bring her little siblings with her? This is not the first time she has visited him on her own. I'm I sick to think like this?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 March 2016):
 I think it's VERY odd for a 14-15 year old to go visit her older male cousin to take NAPS in his bed.
I'm sorry, that seems really creepy to me.
He might not be a perv at all, she might have a huge crush on him and sees their "time together" as a relationship and therein lies the danger.
If they were hanging out watching movies or heck playing scrabble I wouldn't find it odd, but her going there to nap? just weird.
He probably doesn't see it as weird because he hasn't been thinking along those lines as you and I. For him it's just his "lil cuz" who comes and spends time.
How does she react to you?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 I can see your concern I really can, but maybe her mother trusts her and your boyfriend, maybe she knows that they where close growing up. But I can see where you are coming from as well. Am afraid this is something that you need to make your own opinion on, it could all be innocent, and they way he told you that she was there it probably is all innocent. He probably didn't see the problem at all. Not all men are perverts. I am sure she came around because she wanted to. If you have any concerns then talk to a parent or a trusted older adult about this.
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