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writes: This is a weird question but..... Do I have a pretty face? Cause I really dont know. Girls I know say I am ugly, some boys say I am hot then others say I'm a 'dog', My work colleagues think i am pretty, my teacher thinks I'm gorgeous but my friends say I am average!!! Help!! It's a silly question cause I know everyone has different opinions on beauty but I'm wondering whether I might even just about fit into the 'pretty' category. I would enclose a picture but it wont let me!!!If I said I am blonde with greeny blue eyes, my eyes are quite small and I have short eye lashes but they look ok with makeup. I'm average sized lips clearish skin, slimmish, I have been told I have quite a pretty smile, small turned up nose with a small chin. I do have a slightly defined jaw, reasonably straight white teeth with thin eyebrows reasonably defined cheekbones. Glinty eyes, large pupils (sorry if I am being a bit specific but I am looking in the mirror now) small eyes lids barely any bags, taut skin, ears are small high forehead. Am I pretty do you think? Just wondering.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (23 June 2006):
 Hi there,
You describe the same features as myself (above), apart from the fact that I have dark hair. However I am 52 yrs of age, so obviously we are going to be different for me, wrinkles etc, too (yay!).
For most of my childhood I was taunted and called 'rubberlips' and 'lanky' but as I grew up I learnt that boys who wanted to go out with me were too scared as they thought I was 'out of their league'!!
Don't assume that I fancy myself, far from it, but I am now happy in my own skin...(I would borrow Catherine Zeta Jone's but she's using it at the mo - ha, ha!)
I spent all my adolescence hiding myself away in my bedroom, paranoid that I was some kind of freak, often crying my eyes out and asking my mum "am I ugly"?? Bless her, she did her best to erase what those nasty people were doing to me, but nothing she could say eased the pain and still I have my doubts, even though people say that I look in my mid-thirties and "was I a model in my younger days"!!! So chin up little bird, and face the world with pride and know that you are better than the ones who knock you, and compare again when old and grey - You will shine and they will be bitter, I am sure. Take care, chick.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 No one can tell you if you are pretty or not because different people like different features. At the end of the day you have to be pretty on the inside - beautiful faces don't make beautiful people! But don't take any notice of your mates opinions - they are just telling you that you are 'average' because they are trying to make you feel bad about yourself. Whatever the truth, it is how you feel about you that is important not a poll of friends, boys or family...self confidence is very attractive but arrogance isn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): Well, dear...you certainly describe yourself as an attractive young lady. Having a healthy, happy relationship with yourself is definitely more about the quality of compassion, kindness, graciousness and niceness you exude to the world around you. Being truely pretty is more about radiance and warmth you show others. For you to hear other girls calling you 'ugly' would've been a painful assessment to hear. As Bonym stated, Girls like this are not friends, they are cruel 'ugly' people themselves. It's apparent, that their lies may have forced you to have some self-doubts about yourself. Don't listen to that toxic stuff. Just make up your mind to never, ever allowing others to determine how you feel about yourself. Other people should have that kind of power over you. These people like to tear you down-so stay away from them. Everyone, no matter how they look, is a unique individual. So just get on with the day and understand, if you are kind to others, then you truely are a gift and are blessed. Take care
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reader, bonym +, writes (18 June 2006):
 My dear, beauty is in the eye of the beholder as another agony aunt rightly said. From what you have described to me you sound gorgeous, but as I said, we all behold and perceive people differently, your features on another face may not be pretty to some, but pretty to others.
Which girls are saying you are ugly? I hope these are not your friends, because what sort of friend says that about their mate. My dear, learn to love what God has given you, you are uniwueand beautiful because there is no one like you. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): Yes, like those before me, someone's asthetics are only 'beautiful' for those who connect with those features. If you want a more objective answer, I suggest you post up a link with your picture here so everyone can say whether they like that or not.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Why do you care if you're classically pretty? If you're not, you can't change that, and if you are, that doesn't make you a better-quality human than someone who has ordinary looks.
What's important is whether you're a good person; that is, if you're kind to animals, friendly to children, helpful to the elderly, respectful to others and honest, hard-working and self-supporting.
If you're all those things, then whether you have a pretty nose or a good complexion fade into obscurity. People notice yours looks, of course; I'm not claiming otherwise. But there are more tangible, and more vital aspects of your self that will outlast whether you have dimples or not! Whether you're pretty, plain or physically hideous really doesn't matter after a while. Focus on the traits that go beyond the physical, because no matter how beautiful a person is today, eventually Age and Gravity take that away.
As the old adage has it: Beauty is skin deep, but Ugly goes all the way to the bone.
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reader, raerae +, writes (18 June 2006):
 HiNo one can be as beautiful that I want to be, It dosen't matter what people think. To be quite honest i think the people who say your ugly are jealous. Don't put yourself down everything and everyone has there beauty even if you can't see it. Have a great life and remember your beautiful in your own way. Hope this helps :)
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reader, willywombat +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Nobody here can answer this. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and we cannot see you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): www.hotornot.com sweetheart!!!!
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