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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a long distance relationship for just three months. We were doing pretty good except for a few minor issues. He speaks of love and marriage. We had a conversation regarding how we both believe that talking to the opposite sex online is a doorway to infidelity / cheating. Then I notice on his facebook that all the time he was adding single attractive girls. Then I looked closer and there are several single attractive girls from before we even met. The married and girls not local really didn't bother me.Mind you he leaves his relationship status as Single. So do I as we had not discussed it. I brought it up in an angry way (could have handled it better) but I noticed that while I was at his house for the weekend he added a VERY attractive young girl. He explained that it was an employee of his and did not want to be rude as it is so important to these young recruits to be connected on Facebook. He insinuates that the problem is mine with Facebook that it is too important to me (Facebook). It isn't. I have used if for approx. five months - have 4 or 5 things uploaded. To prove how much it doesn't matter I deactivated my account. Later in that conversation when talking about the single girls he was adding I apologized for the way I reacted. Then he mentioned having a girl that is a friend over from out of town (before this happened I was included and going to meet her for the first time) and she would be spending the night and How would I be with that? I am not the type to tell someone what to do - and I told him that was his call. There is more but I need to close. Am I over reacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): You have been dumped. Sorry if this seems harsh, but this guy is totally not into you or invested in the relationship. Long distance relationships do not work. In this case I am sure your boyfriend thinks of you as a long distance booty call.I would have rolled out the red carpet when he announced that he was having another woman "friend" from out of town visit and spend the night and I would have told him that you are not stupid, you weren't born last night and you know when you are being disrespected and promply tell him you are exiting the relationship and do not contact you in any way, EVER.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): I saw someone do this -She created a new facebook profile with a pretty girl's picture and then started chatting with him. just be ready for whatever he will tell this "pretty girl aka you". And be ready to dump him if he proves to be a cheater and a liar.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (25 March 2010):
No! you are not over reacting you care for this man and he is abusing his relationship with you!
Tell him to go and find someone local. His behaviour is of more concern as I assume you are in the thirtes so he by now be versed in how to treat you?
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