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writes:I am 24 and recently got back together with my boyfriend of 4 years (we had a years break, as i felt the relationship was not progressing). Anyway, since getting back together, he has been making every effort to make things work out, and make me happy. I however can not help but wonder if i am doing the right or wrong thing by starting our relationship up again. We decided to move in together in one months time, and have recently signed a years lease in a great house. Since signing, i have been even more worried as to whether we are doing the right thing. Reasons for my worry, is that, for example - 2 years ago when i started working where i am currently, i developed a crush on a co-worker (who i do not know very well)and i never did anything about it, two days ago, i found out he has a crush on me - ever since finding this out, i cant get this man out of my head, which is making me feel very bad. Should i be thinking of other men if i am about to move in with my boyfriend? Secondly, my boyf and I had a good sex life before we broke up, but since getting back together, it just doesnt feel right at all for me. I dont know what to do. Am i making a big mistake moving in with him for a year? Should i pull out now before we move in? Or am i just being a worry wort? Thanks so much, i would really appreciate your advise. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): well.....
they say the best way to know someone is in his home suit.
you are worried based on the experience you had with him, but as long as you've decided to make a try, i think you should do this step.
this is the only way you can find if you 2 are good together or not. to wake up with him every morning, to go to sleep together, to see if your stress works well with his stress.
cause we have to admit: we live blury times, so is normal to be nervous at home.
moving with him is not a life or death decision. if you see you 2 are not fine, you can just leave. but if you don't do this step, then there is always the chance for you to wonder "what if" in the months which will come.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 Definitely do not move in with him. The fact that you have doubts is more than enough evidence that you aren't comfortable with the idea. Your feelings for your boyfriend are unstable at the moment you need to sort those out before you get stuck with a lease (you've already signed but did not take possession so you should be able to get it voided).
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