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writes:The other night I fooled around with this guy who has a gf and I feel so guilty. I don't even fancy him at all i was sooo drunk I know it's not an exuse but I never usually get that drunk and I'm absolutely disgusted in my self now and can't stop thinking about it. It's not something I would do at all and I hardly remeber bits of it. Can't even remeber if he said they had split up or not but In the morning he told me not to tell anyone and if it comes out he knows it's from me and to delete the message, so they are obv sti together. I was really drunk and told one of my friends and now her bf knows so he could tell people but there totally different friendship groups so hopefully won't get back to his gf. I don't even know her I feel terrible. I hate my self. I just need some advise about the situation I feel awful and so scared that it will get out even though it probly won't. Help x
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (15 June 2015):
 Don't worry about it getting out. If it did, it serves him right. He had no right to take advantage of you in your inebriated state to get his freak on. You did nothing wrong, and please don't fret about it. If he comes back to you trying to make you feel guilty, tell him to stay away from you, because you won't touch him with a ten foot pole while you are sober.
Please be careful next time you go out drinking. If you know it leads to unsafe, promiscuous behaviour that will make you feel really bad the next day, then curtail your drinking.
Consider this experience a lesson for you to limit your drinking.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 June 2015):
 Well, not much YOU can do now. For him to ALMOST threaten you is kind of pathetic, AS he is the one with a GF. HE cheated on HER. (though you "helped" him cheat).
Sometimes we make mistakes. Learn from it. Maybe cut down a BIT on the alcohol if you find it SO hard to control your actions when drunk?
If it gets out, OWN it. Yes you did a sucky thing, yes it was a mistake, yes you should have known better... yet YOU did this. So accept that you are not "perfect" that you will make mistakes, BUT that you will NOT make the same one twice!
Then let it go. You can't go back in time and change. So regretting and feeling guilty is all good and well IF it teaches you a LESSON in life, but to punish yourself? It's pointless.
Next time you go out... less drinking more control. THAT is your lesson.
SCREW what the DUDE might or might not think. If it gets back to the GF at least she will know what kind of guy she is dating. If it hand't been you he had fooled around with, it would have been another girl.
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