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writes:Me and my boyfriend are opposite ends of the spectrum. He's outgoing, loves to socialize, has tons of friends, loves sports and is generally a very happy, energetic and fun person. I, on the other hand, have the typical introverted personality type. I dread going to social events, I'm quiet, hate sports, not fun to be with, and am rather boring most of the time. We've been together for almost 2 years, and recently I found out through some snooping around that he still has feelings for his ex and was considering a relationship with her. His ex also has feelings for him. We broke up. He apologized, and said all the typical stuff to ask for another chance. I took him back.This ex-gf of his is also a very fun and bubbly person, with a pretty face, and basically matches my boyfriend completely. They have common friends and my bf always has lots of fun hanging out with her. I saw pictures of them hanging out with a group of people, and it kills me to see how happy he was when he was with her, when he never seemed that way when he's with me. I feel almost like I'm the other person who is standing in their way of a potentially great relationship. Yet my boyfriend nearly begged me to stay with him after the break up and said he'd cut ties with that girl and that he only loves me. For reasons that I won't bother going into, I do believe that he is sincere with his words.I guess my question is, why does he want to be with me when it is so clear that his ex and him belong together? Our personalities are so different, which always leads to conflicts and misunderstanding. If he's with her, he'd be so much happier and things would be so much simpler. The only reason why they broke up in the first place was because that girl picked someone else over him after a couple months of dating, so it's not like they parted ways due to any serious problem.. they barely even had the chance to really date, it only lasted for two months.Am I stupid to want to give up this relationship because I feel that my bf really belongs with that girl? Am I really the other person here standing in their way? Is it possible to love someone who is so different, when there's someone else right here that's perfect in every way for you and whom you are attracted to? Sorry about this rambling, but any opinion would be much appreciated.
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reader, To_Di_Always  +, writes (9 December 2008):
Ask him the same questions you asked us. I think you will find the answers the best informing, and yes i love someone who loves doing math for fun, a hard worker, very into music, loves to talk about movie stars and all that entertainment stuff, he is atheist, ect. i am all the opposite of him! as far is i and he can tell! we never even agree! but i love him! and he loves me! but be warned, this guy could be in love with his ex, but just afraid to be with her...so be aware and dont submit! :D stay strong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): it is possible!heres an inspiring true story..dont mean to sound up myself but.. im a pretty bright sparky outgoing WOO kind of girl with heaps of mates and hobbies and yeah like i go to this drama club and i do dancing and singing and yeah.. there were two guys in my life that both wanted me and i wanted both of themone was like me bright and outgoing and into drama and singing and dancing like me and is friends with like everyone and real popular and we get on reall well and have heaps of laughs!the other was like my opposite shy and quiet and doesnt like too much attention really an introvert kind of guy with hardly any friends and we have prety different interests he isnt really into drama and stuff like i amat first i was totally for the first guybut later on i found out i was more attracted to the second guy even though he was so different maybe because he was so different i found him interesting because he was different and i find his shyness sexy and attractivethe first guy is more like a best mate to me but im not really that attracted to himnow im with the second guy and weve been together for 2 years and are happy! the end!:)hope this helped!
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