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writes:My girlfriend lives in a different town to me but i travel to stay with her quite often. However when im not with her ive got a gut feeling she is cheating on me. Firstly her mother and sister had informed me not to trust her and that she had 3 guys on the go at once a while ago, she told me that was not true. There are times where she doesnt get back to me when i text or ring her at night she has used the excuse that she had fallen asleep which i beleive. Once when i was with her she was talking to her mate about a night out an she looked at her mate quite obviously and says " well i wasn't out for long was i" the fact she looked at her mate when saying that made me think she was out for long i would not care if she was but why desguise it. Another thing was when she was working one night she text me saying she was heading home at about 1am. i went sleep then in the morning noticed a text at 4am saying she was staying at her mates house for the night her mate is female. then later i got a text saying she missed me and could not stop thinking about me. well the next day i rang her and she explained what had happened that she went to her mates with a bottle however she seemed to hesitate quite a bit. then dutring that day she sent me texts asking is everything with us was ok . i kept saying yeah why wouldn't it be an she jus said she was having a dumb moment. this puzzled me cos why was she asking if everything with us was ok. this made me think it was not her female mates she had stayed with but a guy. i wondered what happened between 1am and 4am. and was she feeling guilty for something by asking if everything was ok. am i just being paranoid or is there a chance this is more than a gut feeling?
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 June 2007):
 I agree with flowergirl. If she has done nothing wrong then why does she keep asking if things between you are ok. I think that's a little sign of a guilty conscience.
I am in a long distance relationship and have been for three years. If my partner started acting like your girlfriend I would be deeply concerned. Also I would be very concerned that her mother and sister were telling you not to trust.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Dude, if you have to ask THIS many questions, do you really think she is that worth it? Her own family sides against her. You can do better. The drama is not worth it.
-FBK
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): If HER family is telling not to trust her, I would definitely believe her family. Why would they tell you? Why don't you follow her one day to see where she's really going.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (19 June 2007):
 You know after reading what you had written i was asking myself the same question before i got to yours , if she had stayed with her friend why would she keep asking you if things were ok between you, what would concern me is the fact her own mother and sister have told you not to trust her so they can obviously see that you are a nice person and as much as they love her they do not want to see you get hurt.
I can not see there being alot of trust in this relationship so what would be the point in carrying on with it, i would find someone that you can trust and someone who's own family can believe in.
Take care.xx.
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