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Am I in denial? Is he really gay?

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Question - (3 January 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 January 2009)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I've been with this guy on and off for 9 months, the last I seen him was around the middle part October, the guy is strange to make a long story short which there is so much talk about. Today is my birthday. He called me to wish me a happy birthday, I didn't get the call because I was just comming in from work. I called him back asking him can he come and see me tonight he said not now later o month ago we had sex, I went down on him and i wanted to find out his sexual status so gave him oral and I had my finger on his ass near his anus, I know it sounds gross, I never did this to anyone before, I wanted to see what he would say as I'm doing it I'm saying to myself - why he isn't telling me to move my finger? I didn't have my finger in it god no! but it was close enough for any man to say move your finger what are you doing? When we was finished I was waiting for him to ask me why did you have youre finger near my ass but he didnt say anything so I finally asked him darren don't you know what I did, he didn't say what! he just said yeah! I know what you were doing I tried to move your hand, I told him that he didn't because he didn't tell me to move it.

I am 38 he is 42 the first time my mom seen him she said she didn't like him because he looks like he is gay and until this very day it's the same thing, I would talk nasty to him over the phone leave nasty text messages to get him to come over and screw me but he is always making excuses. I ask him is he attracted to me he said yes, I said are you seeing someone he says no, he keeps telling me it's not me it's him. I also keep telling him that he is so diffrent from any man I've been with in my life, he said yeah he is diffrent after he told me that he couldn't see me tonight I got upset and I kept calling him, leaving messages about him seeing me tonight, I called him around 6 times, the final message I left I said darren, I'll let you screw me in the ass he called me in 1 min, I said darren what is the problem, it's my birthday, I need his hard member, dont you want it darren, I said darren what is it, you don't want pussy, what are you gay? He goes yes which I asked him plenty of times before when we first got together. I was just curious because he does act kind of strange. He goes yes, I said darren stop playing, you're just telling me this to stop calling you? He goes no I've been in and out for 3 years.

Please someone help me... would a man lie about this if they aren't? Any way I played the game, I said what made you tell me this and he said because it is the new year, he told me not to dwell on it, leave it like it is and he will call me tomorrow. I just hang up. Please, am I in denial?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

Honeypie agony auntNope it doesn't make him gay. Men ( and women) have about as many nerve endings in the anus as women do in the clit, so stimulation of that area can be quite pleasurable. Women have a a G-spot in the vagina and dudes a P-spot in the anus ( p= prostate) and if done right. both areas are pleasurable. Doesn't make you gay.

However if he says he's gay maybe he is. Or maybe he was just tired of you hounding him about it.

You two need s to talk. He's not fulfilling your needs.And you question his sexuality.

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A female reader, texangirl United States +, writes (3 January 2009):

Honey, it's sounds like he could be being truthful. withoutknowing more it's hard to say. But if he doesn't want to discuss it further leave it.

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A male reader, Western3589 United States +, writes (3 January 2009):

Western3589 agony auntSome men like their anus touched or licked. Thats all i can really conclude from this..

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