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female
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41-50,
*lairyfairy
writes:How the hell do i get over someone! Im so inlove with a man we were together 2 yrs on off. Im besotted with him. We had something so special but he wont commit to me hes not the settling down type at all! I love him so much and if he could just open his eyes and see he could have such a great life with me. He tells me he loves me im the one i know him like no other but he said he dont know how to change! But then a few wk later is all i love u i want u. Im sorry. I want to change. I walk round everyday missing him and cant move on. I just no he giving up the best chance ever. And im so lonely. Wanting him. But if he loved me like he said hed want to be with me properly wouldnt he.i like i do cos a big part of me is missing and i dont kno what to do to get me out of this! I walk round thinking no one will have the connection we had! And im gonna end up a sad lonely old women with regrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Go to the beach or playground and grab a hold of some sand in your hands. Put them onto a table's surface and separate one speckle of sand from it. Step away and look at it.
Do you see it?
The wind blows around us constantly. No doubt, that wind will blow away that speckle of sand, along with the pile of sand you just put on that table.
This planet is massive for us humans. How many kilometres do you walk per day? How many sensations do you feel every moment? How many breaths do you take when you walk around your living room? How about to the corner store and to the park? How many do your eyes see? How many interactions can you observe? How many sounds do you ears listen to? How much of those same sounds are you aware of?
People may always have lingering feelings of guilt and regret coinciding a conglomerate of things we could have done, or would have experienced. However, that sort of mind frame is stale and dimwitted. There is no benefit to be gained when we stay still, sleeping in our own miseries and constantly put ourselves down against the ground, feeling sorry for our 'mistakes' or even, our feelings of attachment.
Expand your mind, your universe will expand and your world will become an infinitely larger place for you to explore.
We, you, I, they, she and he chooses our own battles. There is always cause and effect. Either stay the course and walk off into an abyss of fermenting misery or step aside and take another route.
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I once felt, I was singular in the entirety of this universe, this existence. As if all the lifeforms and elements around me were just aspects of my own mind. I broke free from that mental prison and became aware that I am only one speckle amidst a vastly large ocean of sand, constantly blown around.
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