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female
age
36-40,
*lueyellow
writes:I dated this guy awhile ago. Very early on, he talked about wanting to be in an exclusive relationship, if that's what I wanted. I told him I wanted us to date first so that we didn't skip all the good parts. However, a week after we met we immediately had to take a geographic break (end of semester) and mostly spent time on the phone. We didn't get along as well as I liked, but I did not want to give up so quickly since everything else seemed to be there other than small little stubborn spats. However, once school resumed, we did not see each other as much as I would have thought we would, and I felt ignored. Despite the fact that he verbally reassured me that he was really into me and that he was sad too to see us somehow distancing from each other, I felt if he was really interested in me I would not have to beg him for attention. We had not slept together, so there was no issue of him "getting what he wanted and moving on." I started dating another guy, and he started dating another girl. Now we have reconciled our somewhat negative feelings about the falling out we had, and had a long conversation about the whole thing. We both admitted we really liked one another; he told me a few issues he had with why he felt things fell apart, including the fact that I'm graduating shortly (he's not) and he was worried he couldn't trust me/that I would find someone else. With that out in the open I figured we could try again at a relationship, but I'm in the same place I was before. Not getting much attention, no phone calls or texts, saw him ONCE since then (it's been a week) and worse than before, now there's this other girl in the picture that I see no strides to get rid of. I really like this guy - which is a big deal for me as I am extremely picky - and I don't want to give him up so easily. Only, I'm not sure if that's clouding my judgment and he's really just "not that into me" despite all the "talk" that he is, and the very sweet ways we get along when we are together. Am I being too impatient and expecting too much?
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