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writes: Hey this may be a bit of a stupid question but here goes:I dont think Ive ever had an orgasm. ever!Im with a great bf who's VERY large down there! and great in bed! im not joking, he is the best guy ive been with. But ive been with a few guys and i've never been able to orgasm, it feels good and all tingly, then just dies away.I tried using a vibrator and seeing if i could sort of "do it myself" so to speak!But it was just the same, the feeling builds up and then dies.and i tried to forget about it during sex to see if it just happened. but it didnt.Am i EVER going to orgasm? i really want to be able to!arghthanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Hi,
I dont want to spoil it for you, but I've never really orgasmed during sex!.
Im 26 going on 27 and I am very experienced, but still no orgasm during sex.
I can do it on my own in a few minutes no problem!, but get a man involved and it just wont happen.
I have tried everything really I have, but at the end of the day the way I see it I can orgasm, just not with a man!.
And although I understand your frustration as I have felt exactly the same way about the same age as you funnily enough!. It was a long time before I decided that after years of worrying and fretting over it, it just wasnt worth stressing about.
I was and still am in a relationship with a man who really loves me for who I am, I have an angel of a son and we've been married for about 5years, but together for 6years now!. And when I remember that it just doesnt seem to bother me anymore!. I really enjoy sex even though I dont orgasm, I get the same tingles as you do. I've realised that sex isnt just about having an orgasm. I see it as a way of bringing me and my husband closer together and feeling completely safe and securing our relationship.
Right thats all the sopey stuff over and done with!! haha But seriously after feeling so frustrated for so long about not orgasming during sex, I realsied that sex is the ultimate way of expressing love for my partner and in turn relieving myself of any worry and stress.
I really hope this has helped you.
good luck in everything you do.
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reader, keely-h  +, writes (11 December 2007):
 it will be like a first period you will be waiting and waiting for it and it will come when you least expect it.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (11 December 2007):
 Hi there,
How frustrating this must be for you, many years ago i was the same but once i found it there was no stopping me.
I am sure you are aware of the 2 special points that woman have for stimulation but i'll tell you anyway 1 of these is internally (i don't believe i have ever had an orgasm with this point alone) the other is your clitoris which is the easiest way to make you orgasm.
I think being on top it the easiest way to do it, any other way you or your b/f will have to touch your clitoris to stimulate it.
Try doing this by yourself and see how you get on, i hope you get it working!!
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