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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I started a relationship with a guy thats much younger than me and when we started dating we were both in seperate relationships at the time but those relationships ended and now me and him are in what i thought was a committed relationship. Recently he went out with his brother and he got a little drunk for most of the night he called me to talk i fell asleep and stoped answering his calls he continued to call me i dont think he knew his phone was calling me but in many of the voicemails i can hear girls in the background in a specific one i can clearly hear him having a conversation with a girl by the name of claudia a few minutes into his conversation i can hear what sounds like kissing he denies it but i cant seem to move past it it devasteted me i truly believe he did kiss her i guess you can say i told him i believed him but i honestly dont do you think im doing the right thing by keeping this to myself and making him believe everything is ok?
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reader, ~little~lady~  +, writes (31 October 2008):
hello
The best thing i would do is to confront him again, if you keep it to yourself then it will make you go crazy but there is a certain point in time where you have to either accept that he is telling the truth or end the relationship.
Relationships are based on trust and honesty. I don't think you're being paranoid but i don't believe you trust this guy 100%.
So ask him again if he still says nothing happened then it's your decision wether u want to believe him or not!
But it's not fair on you or him if you keep this to yourself because it will come back up, when u have an argument etc!.
Good luck
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reader, extremityman +, writes (31 October 2008):
 Sure he could have been kissing somebody. Was he too drunk to remember what happened? Did he "black out?" People cheat all the time, and he already started his relationship with you comfortable "cheating" on you (though you weren't committed). Personally I don't think kissing itself is cheating, but it does give a reason to be worried. I kissed a girl the first day we spent time together, but that's all we ever did. The opportunity to go further with this ho'bag was there, but I swayed the scepter the other way partly because I found out she was a ho'bag. Is your boyfriend the type that would sleep with a ho'bag if he's drunk enough to kiss a girl when he's leaving you a voice message? Can you tell whether he was lying to you when he denied it? Did you ask enough questions of him to see the picture of the night in your head?
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