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writes:Am I destined to spend the rest of my life alone.I have been burnt far too many times by the flames of love!!I've been used, lied to, cheated on, abused and left to pick up all the pieces by myself!I have absolutely no trust in the opposite sex when they try to tell me they are different (Sorry guys)Yeah people keep saying they are not all the same well in my experience they are.I am 100% head over heels in love with this guy and have been for seven months, he know's I like him and claims to like me too!Well he treats me (unlike other girls he crosses) with all the respect possible he makes me feel safe looks after me when i'm a bit worse for wear instead of taking advantage.We have been close we shared a passionate kiss on two occassions and then I find out all of a sudden he is seeing somebody else!!I'm heartbroken I really amWhat's that all about?!I can't ask him I know I should but I can't face him.Thank you for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): hi sorry you have been treated so bad. not so sure it is a good idea to tell every guy your past love experiences if you do, as you are sticking a certain message on your forehead, and this will draw the moth to the flame, easy prey,telling them how vulnerable you are, and you may well find that you have given certain guys clues how to fool you into thinking they are ok, then when your involved and have put total trust in them they bite, ouch! yes it does hurt but you may not knowingly be playing out a certain role yourself over and over again, thus attracting the same guys over and over again. so on a different angle the problem could even be down to you as hard as this may be to see. try the opposite tell the next guy nothing about your vulnerable feelings. you seem like an idealist as well and this is often a problem and hard for relationships to live up to. yes you do want love and respect and truth and the answer may be in yourself, love yourself, respect yourself and be truthful to yourself .can any species of man live up to your ideal? when I'm a bit worse for wear i wish some guy would take advantage of me. many women and men have been lied to, abused etc,in relationships but the trick is turn the silver kiss of betrayal into gold! never loose your trust in all men and never give up hope and to use your past bad experiences to enhance your knowledge
(not theirs) try and stop waiting to be rescued save your own butt or your role will forever be repeating and waiting.
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reader, Mark25 +, writes (13 July 2008):
 I don't think that you're going to be on for own forever. You've had boyfriends in the past and you have someone who's interested now so it's clear that you don't have a problem in meeting people or getting boyfriends. I know it's old and been said millions of times but you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. Forget about the pillock that you're upset over and find someone who is worthy of your love. Piece of advice from a man: if a man really likes you he will walk to the ends of the earth and back for you. So the next time that you meet someone, show him that you like him, kisses and cuddles and nothing else, but keep him at bay for a while until you are sure that he's not using you. If he isn't he'll never lose interest in you and will always reply to your texts and calls. I hope that this advice has helped you in some way. Keep smiling. I wish you the very best for the future.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Well he treats me (unlike other girls he crosses) with all the respect possible he makes me feel safe looks after me when i'm a bit worse for wear instead of taking advantage.
Sign of dating a loser: He treats OTHERS like crap.
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