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*ucyloo182
writes:Hi peeps!I've been living with me bf now for 7 months now and I'm reallu concerned about the way my bf treats me. Our relationship used to be filled with affection for each other, now I find its very one sided. I'm always the one who instigates sex and whenever he wants me to i'll shower him with affection (foot massages, back strokes head massages) but I feel i have to ask for everything, once I wanted to see how long it would be until my bf gave me a kiss, i waited 4 days!Am I asking for too much?I have tried talking to him about it but he just says that he's not a kissy/cuddly guy and I put him under too much pressure? He says he loves me and I love him very much but all i want is a little affection now and again? Please can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong and am I being taken for a ride here?Thanksxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, lemonverbena  +, writes (18 February 2010):
You are not doing anything wrong by being affectionate and wanting it in return. That's what good relationships are about! He sounds like he is treating you coldly, and that something is up with him, not you. Don't doubt the validity of your own needs! Many people feel the same way as you do.
Have you told him how you feel? That you want his touch and affection just as much as you give it? And most importantly, that you need it to be happy with him? If so, how does he respond to that? If he refuses to give you what you need in your relationship, that may be a pattern and he may not really be willing to change. In my opinion that is grounds for dismissal.
Good luck!
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