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writes:Alright people, it's been a while since I've actually posted anything on here haha, been busy with finals and stuff. Now that it's done, I need to ask everyone this, because it's really been bugging me for a long time now, matter fact it's been bugging me for the last month and a half.My girlfriend and I went thru a break, but only problem was I'm not at fault for it. I never cheated on her, nor have I lied to her about anything if you guys want more background on the situation read my post about it here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girlfriend-asked-for-space-what-can-i-do.htmlAnyways it then escalated to a "temporary break-up" as she called it, which I'm not gonna even try to ask what it means. Regardless, to me she's still someone I love and care about, and when I text her at times, I still call her names like "Baby" or "Hi beautiful" and stuff like that, I'm sorry, it can't be helped. But to her, it seems like everything has been forgotten. She's pushed me away, she'll text me maybe once every 5 days and usually the text conversation won't last more than 10 minutes at most and they aren't like warm texts they're very cold, almost like I'm just a stranger to her now. One thing I don't understand is, if it's only temporary or "for the time being" like she claims it is then why is she treating it so seriously? I know a lot of people are different and stuff, but usually a break lasts only for about 2 weeks at minimum or a month at most, but this thing has dragged on for 1 month and a half. And I've been suffering everyday, with loss of sleep, loss of apetite and I've tried taking some of the people's opinions and moving on and just enjoying the simple things in life, but I can't because in the back of my mind, when the fun's all done, I come home and I sit down and think of only her. A month and a half now, and still no answer, when I asked her, where she's at, she tells me still undecided but hopefully within the upcoming weeks something will happen. What I want to know is, should I just be a little bit more patient and wait? I mean I've already been patient enough (at least I think) in giving her space and letting her have time to herself to think, but it just seems like she's not utilizing the free time to think instead she's utilizing it to go out and have fun and stuff (I'm not making this up, she told me herself). So should I wait? Or should I be the one to make the decision and just tell that I can't wait for her anymore because I'm literally now very hurt by this, I've told her that, and she says she feels bad but nothing has been done. She tells me she's changed and every girl will put their boyfriends through this. Am I being played now? Am I being tested by her to see how long I can be and how patient I can be?Help people, Please :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Look, she's moved on, maybe not to another relationship but at least out of your relationship with her.
"she tells me still undecided"
No, she's "decided" to "go out and have fun and stuff" and you need to do the same.
The following is not true, a steady reliable gf doesn't do this to you.
"She tells me she's changed and every girl will put their boyfriends through this."
She's looking at the field and you are letting yourself be "benched" to wait till she needs another player.
Get a different team.
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