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*tacy666
writes:im having an affair with a married man from work (my boss) we have fallen in love and he say's he will leave his wife for me but i've told him not to as he should leave because he wants to, not for me as i cant promise that we will be together forever. he also has 2 children also so i feel guilty about them (they are under ten). Im confused about what to do cos i dont like all this sneaking about and feeling guilty, should i end it or stay with him and see if he does leave his wife? Am i being selfish? sometimes i think yes but then if they are unhappily married maybe they shouldn't be together anyway
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (27 March 2007):
Are you so bad that the only man you can get is someone who is already married and looking for some bit on the side. Dont you have enough respect to just find your OWN man. Well, if his marriage is REALLY unhappy and he isnt just saying that. Then he will leave her in his own time. If he doesnt leave her, he MAY come to you. Theres a possiblity he WONT, and if he does, he will be cheating on you eventually...and you will deserve it. And in reply to what catseye said, you dont have to worry about loseing your job, he cannot fire you enless he has a serious reason. If he does you can get him done for unfair dismissal. So if this turns bad, you have to show him he cant mess with you, if he trys to fire you, get him fierd aswell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): Sorry, but i have been on the other end, my wife beater husband, cheated on me three times (I found out for definate after the divorce). You know what you are going into when you meet married men. Sorry but you should never of pursued this one in the first place. He is married with kids. what does his wife think he is doing when he goes out? Where do the kids think dad is? You should of considered all of this earlier. Please just walk away and leave him to sort his life out. If he later leaves his wife because their marriage has broken down, then sort things out with him. But Do no be the reason for his to split. The first time things go wrong between you he will blame you for it, believe me.
Take care
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Been in your shoe's and yes it is wrong. IF he is that unhappy in his marriage, he will divorce in HIS own time, not because he should because of you. Majority of the time, those men or women who do leave their spouse for another person, the relationship becomes doomed for failure because he/she left for the wrong reasons. (they think it's love) But it's because you just came around at the "right" time, when actually he needs to sit and talk with his wife about what their problems are and try to solve them, especially since they have young children. That personally would be the smart thing for him to do. I know that might not be what you want to hear, but seriously, it's the truth. What I worry about is that he is your boss. Doesn't it cross your mind that a boss can fire the employee's? Especially one that he had been sleeping with?? If you really love your job and you are going to quit seeing him, do it carefully! Word of advice, never sleep with the boss! I pray you will make the right and deep in your heart right decision. Their are to many men your age who would love to have your own children with you. Best of Luck and let me know how it works out.
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