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writes:My girlfriend of two years finally admitted that she lied about another man who was pursuing her. I had heard rumors that it was happening and when I asked who this person was, she replied that she had never heard of him for months. Finally when I broke it off, she confessed that the person did exist and that he was a famous athlete. She went on to say that I was "lucky" that she did not leave me for him while we were together. Am I being to harsh to dump a liar like this?
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reader, mesoreal +, writes (15 August 2008):
mesoreal is verified as being by the original poster of the question UPDATE: The man in question had a girlfriend who was pregnant. He became interested in my girl because she "helped" him through the abortion. ALl of this happened without my knowledge until someone tipped me off they were spending a lot of time together. At one point I came back from a business trip and fuond a large thumb shaped bruise on her upper inner left thight and she was withdrawn from me and did not want to show me the bruses. I beleive they had sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): She was properly angry and hurt when she told you, "your lucky I didn't dump you for him" comment. If you dumped someone over this then there must be something else wrong with the relationship, it's a stupid reason to end a relationship.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 I'm confused by this one because your question clearly implies she admitted he existed but said she hadn't contacted him 'for months'. Soooo hows does 'finding out he existed' make her a liar?? She's only a liar if she did keep contact with him and lied about that.
If that is in fact what she did lie about then I would tend to feel much the same as purple although I am not sure it necessarily follows she did cheat. Saying you were lucky was crass and uncalled for; it is clear your relationship had serious issues in any case so maybe no matter what the specifics you were right. Move on. Good luck.
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