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writes:Been with girlfriend just over 4 years. At begining she didnt want to tell anyone just to see if things would work out between us. As time has gone on, she comes up with more and more excuses for not telling anyone. All her friends think she is single. Everyone at her works think she is single. When she out with her mates and anyone asks, she tells them she is single. This has gone on for four years now. She kept saying she was waiting for the right moment to tell everyone.The other day when this came up yet again, because I asked when are we gonna start moving on in the relationship, such as getting a place together, she said it was a big decision because she would have to give up her family and friends if we moved in together. I asked why she would have to give them up, she said because they will all disown her if we move in together so she was gonna do it to them first. They dont even know me!!!!So rather than tell everyone about us and letting them accept it or not, she is gonna cut eveyone off if we move in together. Thats the reason she now gives for taking her time with us moving forward.Ive had enough!!! Its one excuse after another, and in a years time, 2 years time, 3 years time, she'll have more excuses and we will still be at this point. I dont want to end it, but I dont wanna be like this for rest of my life.Please, any advice would be helpful on what I can or should do.
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reader, latinoheat  +, writes (10 May 2011):
Yea man sounds like a bunch of crap to me too. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is move on. But you have to. But in my opinion we all have to make sacrifices for something we want or desire. If she isnt willing to do that im sorry man its time to kick her ass to the curve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): It's taken her four years to even say that she has a boyfriend? Because the time has never been right to bring it up? That sounds made up, my friend. And now she will have to completely cut ties with her whole family if she moves in with you or moves on with your relationship?
Sounds like a load of crap to me. I think you're right to move on. There is definitely a woman out there for you who would be proud to have you as her boyfriend.
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