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writes: Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I've looked for help from you guys...but I am really feeling overwhelmed! I have always been willing to help/advise, that's why I joined this site. But, the past few days have been unreal! My phone has been ringing nonstop! Friends with real problems---life and death problems!My best friend's father is dying of liver cancer...she is dealing with this all on her own and is at the point of colapse! My other good friend's son is in the hospital with a blood clot. Another friend is having relationship problems. I myself am having some medical and financial problems! My bosses mother died over the weekend; it took all the concentration I could muster, just to write out a card to her! I feel as though I just want to go to bed and pull the covers over my head! And yet I still feel the need to spend some time on this site! I guess I am venting more so than asking a specific question! Thanks for listening! ~Britt~
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responsies! Especially Rajesh Nair.
I woke up this morning thinking I would remove myself from this site permanently. But your response has given me the intitiative to keep helping when I can!
Yes I do all those things you suggested. My friend who's father is dying talk twice a day every day. The others at least once a day. I will always be there for my friends...as they have been for me throughout our friendships...
I never said I wanted to hide...(I did not title this post)
There are times I need a break but will never hide from my friends, especially when they need me most.
Thank you again, I appreciate you taking the time and thoughtfulness to respond.
Sincerely,
~Britt~
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reader, Rajesh Nair  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Hi Britt, I understand your situation. Things are really going wrong all around you. But I believe, we can still make it work. :)
You can help your best friend by just calling her up often and enquiring about how her father is doing. A call everyday would really gladden up your friend. In between, if possible, try helping her as much as you can.
Same for your good friend's son too. Do keep in touch with her at all times. Ask her whether there is anything you can do to help her in such tough times, and do it whenever possible. This would surely make you feel better. :)
Advice your friend to post a query here regarding his/her relationship problems. People here would be more than eager to help her out. :)
Regarding your boss's mother, you did the best you could. Some losses cannot be compensated for through words. The card which you sent will surely act as a motivation for her to adjust to the great loss she's had. You did a great thing.
Regarding you Britt, can't really help you regarding the financial problems, but where your health is concerned, please do take very good care of yourself. I hope you get absolutely fit soon. A happy and a relaxed mind is more than half the work done. Try the best you can...And when you have done the best, you can do no more. Just smile at the end of the day and giver yourself a pat on the back for everything you did during the day. You'll surely feel better.
I sincerely appreciate your gesture of trying to help out everyone around you, even in such tough times.
Keep on doing the good work...Things would soon be fine again. Take care and God bless. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've always felt the same way! Helping others takes the focus off my problems. But I also seem to take on everyones problems and I want to help so bad....
I feel like I have nothing more to give! I understand why therapist burn out so quickly! It's exhausting! And these people are my friends...when they are hurting, I hurt! I just want to fix everything and I know I can't! It's frustrating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): I find that helping with other people's problems helps me not to focus on mine as well. Hope things get better for you.
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