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writes:Right.so my best friend 'vicky' was guy coin out with this guy called 'jonny' and jonny had a housemate called 'rob'.. as general introductions go.. i met rob and thought he was cool.we all went out to a club together and we ended up back at their house, and rob started kissin me on the sofa and because i was only 15, i kinda freaked out n went to bed, said i was tierd. i spoke to him afterwards n he found out my age n sed ' sorry i thought you were older. he was 19.anyway, i told him i like him n he sed ' you're too young, but if i was your age, id be all over u like a rash'.. which was a bummer really.anyway, 3 years later and we are best friends. we hang out all the time and have such fun. like, we proper understand each other. ive recently moved 2 uni so dont get to see him as much.anyway, i came back from uni and went 2 a club n ended up stoppin at his house drunk, we ended up kissin n cuddlin and eventually havin sex, but it wasnt just like ' a quickie' it was funny and nice and intimate. when he'd fallen asleep, i got a taxi home 2 avoid morning awkwardness, we didnt speak about it afterwards.then a couple of weeks later, the same thing happened. and while we were huggin he sed ' i love you' and i laughed and said ' i love u too'...the problem is.. i do actually love him!im 18, and hes 22... so the age difference is seriously ok in my eyes. im absolutely besotted by him.what shall i do? i dunno whether 2 tell him i dont want to ruin the best friendship ive ever had.please! help me. i need itMe x( i changed the names of people )
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reader, cd206 +, writes (18 January 2007):
 You do love him, you just reacted inappropriately in a highly charged situation. We all do it trust me. Ever wondered why you always want to laugh in the middle of a two minute silence? It's the same thing. It's not that you're not serious about what's happening, just that something else overcomes it. Explain it to him like that and hopefully he'll understand.
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 What would you rather a best friend or a boyfriend, see the risks as you know included breaking up and maybe losing a bestfriend. Or you could find that one true love.
He told you he loved you, now see what i think is that he might have told you while you were drunk so that he knew he could say it and get it out and in the open, and if you didn't say it back he would hope that you were to drunk to remember. If you want him as a boyfriend then talk to him and be sober when you do it, so he doesn't think that it's just drunk talk. Tell him that you remember him telling you that he loved you,But ask him if he really meant it, and he will say yes, say good that's want i wanted to hear, tell him that even though you had a few drinks you meant it too,tell him that although you know the risks of loving someone that is your bestfriend, you do love him and that if he wanted to that you guys could try dating.
Now if you want to just stay best friends then talk to him and tell him that you heard him and that you do love him alot but your worried about if something ever happened that you guys broke up then you would lose your best friend, and that's a risk you don't want to take, you would never want to lose his friendship. And give him a hug, and ask him if he feels the same way, if he says yes then all cool, if he says no ask him if he realizes the risks and does he really want to put the friendship at risk if you guys break up.
Hopefully this works for you and no matter what i hope that you either keep a best friend, or find your true love
Hope that helps
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