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writes:I was wondering how you can change the way you feel about something. For example i used to be an all around happy person that nothing ever bothered me i always looked at the positive points in every situation. When my ex girlfriend would say hurtfull things i would be upset a while but id get over it quick and forget about it.I could get into arguments and id be fine after a little while and i was never the jelous type and i was real trusting.Months ago she cheated on me and i was devastated. I went into a depression for a few months. She was always the jelous type and shes the one that ended up cheating. Anyways i recoved from that but i dont feel the same anymore. Now i have a hard time trusting people and im extremely jelous now. Before this happened i could have an argument and go right to sleep without problems and now i have an argument or something and it makes me feel terrible to the point that i feel like the world is going to end. I catch myself doing this and i realise its unreasonable but i cant help feeling this way. All i want is to be the way i was before all this happened. I could be alone and be happy and now i always feel like theres and empty space in me. I dont feel upset all the time like i was for a few months but im not optimistic like i always used to be and as hard as i try to be i just cant make myself feel that way. I feel like im an over sensitive girl or something. I know theres plenty of good girls out there but its just really hard on me because everytime i feel rejected i almost want to cry.Like i said i was never like this. What do you guys suggest. Have any of you overcome this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): "She was always the jelous type and shes the one that ended up cheating"Very common.But, it, cheating, has nothing to do with you, everything to do with her. Cheaters are doing so because of their internal issues. Read some books on cheating and affairs to help you understand. I've lived it, still deal with it, and I can tell you it gets easier AFTER MANY MONTHS.My wife was always afraid I'd leave her for another woman, always, because that is what happened in her family of origin repeatedly, same with all her siblings. She had an affair.After 20 years, I've never even touched another woman, never flirted with one, not that I'm holier than thou (because I've certainly thought about other women plenty of times and had opportunities).You see, the "jealous type" is the type that has the fear of what will happen, because they expect it to happen based on their life experiences. That drives a lot of actions and interpretations of actions. Reading up will help you.No, everyone does not cheat, I'm living proof of that for now.
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