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writes:I did something a couple of months ago that I'm regretting now. Basically what happened is I told the man I was in love with who I thought loved me that I wouldnt sleep with him as long as he was married. I said I would still like to be his friend. I knew he was really unhappy with his wife. Well I thought he would have respected my desision but instead he told me he wanted nothing to do with me. So all along he was just telling me things I wanted to hear like that I'd be a great mother and that he hoped I wouldnt marry anyone else just to get into my pants. I guess I just need some reassurance that I did the right thing because it happened 6 months ago and I'm feeling a little down. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): Of course you did the right thing, this man is not unhappy with his wife, he wants a little on the side. The bigger question, is why would you fall for the oldest line in the book, my wife doesn't understand me, and fall in love with a man who is emotionally and logistically unavailable to you....are you afraid of the real thing, intimacy and closeness with someone who loves you back and wants to be with only you? Cheer up, and be glad you saved the worst heartached of all, wasting precious time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): HELL YES you did the right thig forget about him and really why do you want to get into a relationship with someone hwo is cheating on their wife. I mean if they're gonna cheat on someone with you then when they're with you they are gonna cheat on you. You also did the right thing for the wife, regardless of their relationship that's something they need to sort out and you need to stay out of. Don't feel down, this guy is a sleaze and a fool, he has no respect for you or his wife so that's something you don't want to be invloved in.
Go out have fun you'll find someone who will love and respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): Of course it's OK. Don't let those manipulative thoughts ruin your life. I would have done the same thing. Your decision it's valuable. You are valuable. No matter how much your flesh wanted it your principles were a priority and that's good. You are right you thought he loved you. Now you know he didn't.
Be secure about your decisions and once you have taken them never look back. Accept their consecuences good or bad and walk with your head up high. You'll notice how you become more secure about yourself.
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reader, KELLYMARiE08 +, writes (16 December 2006):
 well darling you did the right thing.
guys have a tendency of thinking about
nothing beside`s whats in their pants.
you shouldent be feeling down. you did nothing
wrong. alot of girls would have given in and
just would have had sex with him. but you stuck
by what you said. you have alot of courage.
dont let this one guy bring you down. youll find
someone thats right for you! you just have to wait.
hope i helped you out a little.
&& good luck finding mr. right =]
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