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writes:Im confused with whats going on with my bf. He recently moved to a different town for work, he said he would miss me lots and will visit me heaps and he wanted to continue our relationship long distance. After he first moved away, things were normal, for about a week, he visited me after his first week away, everything went well. Then he went back and now things are weird. He barely contacts me at all! He never initiates contact, I always have to. And when I do talk to him, he doesnt say things like 'miss you heaps' or 'love you' like he used to. I asked him about it and he said he still does love me and so on, but hes just been 'busy' with work. Hmm so busy that he can go for days on end without contacting me, yet has time to go on his facebook and chat to his old friends on there? Sounds like his priorities arent right in my opinion.Even after I talk to him about it, things dont change, he barely talks to me and he never initiates contact. Im quite offended that his excuse for his behaviour is that hes 'busy'. I understand his work is quite full on at he moment, but if he has time to go on facebook and chat to all his old frineds, surely he has time to contact his gf?His behaviour is weird because normally, before he moved away, he was all over me, contacting me 24/7. We would talk every single day and would usualy text throughout the day then see each other most nights. He told me that when hes in a r/ship he likes lots of contact, because he doesnt see the point in being one if you barely talk to the other person. Him saying that really worries me now becuase he seems to be fine without talking to me much now.I have tested him several times, to see if I go without talking to him, if he would make the effort to contact me. ive lasted 4 days, and no word from him so far. Im going to see what happns within 7 days.I am lost as what else to do.I feel like he doesnt want to be with me anymore but is too gutless to say it. What do you think is going on? And what should I do about it? I want an honest answer from him. I dont feel I can move on until I know for sure that hes not interested. If there is the slightest possibility that he is actually busy, then I cant let go, not until I know for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): I think you have all the signs that he's lost interest here and you are right, he's too gutless to say it. Closure often doesn't come in words, more like actions. Long distance isn't for everyone and not sure why he'd move if he was that serious about the relationship either. Well, regardless, right now he's moved on it seems. This is not what you want to hear, but he probably found someone else or he looked at the move as a way to get out of your relationship.
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