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female
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41-50,
*ily29
writes:How Can I have a good relationship with an anxious man ?I met my boyfriend 6 months ago and he fell in love with me i tried to be more rational as i had so many bad experiences before so I couldn't help my heart and I fell in love with him too .he has an anxiety problem and he was on a anti depressing tablet which had a lot of side effects so I pushed him to go to his Dr and cut the medication dose in half .before that was the beginning and he was communicating with me etc ...but after that i couldn't say any thing to him which was against his will .he hide his camping trip and we just can meet once a week as we live in different town and we can't afford commuting so he tried to avoid meeting me even once a week to be with his friends and in that camping trip when i asked that we should meet up more or take me with you he shouted at me that I am possessive and won't give him freedom and he wouldn't believe this wasn't about trust etc.. was about seeing him and obviously most couples if they love each other they enjoy this hobbies together . and he said he is happy and content with me and i am the one who has problems but on the other hand he said he even doesn't want to spend every weekend with me and he is bored with this routines and his friends come first and on the other hand he said that he loves me and i am making him happy and confident .also he lied once which was a white lie in his mind and when i confront him with it he just said he wanted to avoid hurting me for staying at mine he wanted to make excuse and go back to his and he had a lovely time at mine .after i told him this staff he said he feel bad about himself and blamed me who i am the only person can make him feel bad and i should have been diplomatic and did not mention that to him .now after all those drama he just avoid me and won't contact me .beside all this problems we are the perfect match and i know i should have been more diplomatic and less open towards him and his anxiety take in to an account too .he stopped any contact with me :( should i contact him ?or should i give some space to him ?
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reader, R1 +, writes (15 May 2013):
 It sounds like he just wasn't that into you. If anyone stops wanting to see you and puts their friends first then they don't like you enough.
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