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writes:How do i tell my bf of 4.5 years that i'm not sure he's the one anymore without breaking his heart at the same time? I love my bf and he's the only bf ive ever had, but lately something feels different and i dont feel that something special for him like i used to. I've noticed some traits of him that i dont really like, like seeing everything black/white, unforgiving...Maybe its boredom or maybe its something else but i cant help to think that id like to see what else is out there without sounding selfish..I know the grass isnt always greener but we've been on a mini break for the last two weeks and honestly although i do love and care for him i dont really miss the phone calls or seeing him. Ive been really trying to decide what i want and i cant. I dont mean to sound like a horrible person but i dont want to settle, i'm only 25 years old. I wish i could take a break from him for a month or so, maybe figure out what im all about and make a decision but i also dont want to string him along. I am SO confused and dont know what to do ..any advice? I dont want to get engaged or married and then change my mind later on.. i mean we looked at engagement rings last year that's how close we were. I'm so worried im gonna make the wrong decision...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): Sorry but I agree with strongfp. Once you get past the lovy dovy stuff thing start to get serious and it requires a lot of effort. This happens to all relationships. If you really thing that there isn't a chance in the world that you can make things work then sorry but there isn't an easy way out. Just do it, let him go and let him get over you. Don't call him, don't look for him, nothing. As if you don't know him because otherwise he'll get hurt and blame himself and think he isn't good enough for anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): I think strongfp might have a little bit of bias, but he's right. This guy's going to be hurt either way. That month long break probably won't work out as well as you'd hope
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