After 3 weeks, she stopped calling me. What is she trying to tell me?

A male age 41-50, *lf51175 writes:

Ok, here's the situation. Hope I include everything. Meet this girl a little over a month ago. I am divorced with two kids and she has a son. We begin chatting over the phone pretty much everyday. She would call and text me everyday. I would let her dictate contacting me most of the time. She seems really into me. She also reveals that the past couple of relationships she was in were pretty bad. We go out after 2 weeks and everything seems fine. I feel comfortable enough to step up the game toward her into the 3rd week. About the same time she seems a little different and I inquire as to what is wrong and am told nothing, not to worry. I still try to go toward her with the relationship, which I know now I probably should have given her some space. In the 4th week she is calling still, but not talking as much and says at one point says that if I knew how she felt about relationships I would just be a friend right now. So I backed off and gave her some space. When I would talk with her I would drop hints and joke about not hearing from her much. Now she has pretty much stopped calling and I have to contact her. Yesterday I recieve a text that said the reason that she wasn't calling me and talking to me as much was because it gets on her nerves and makes her uncomfortable when I say things about how much she calls or texts me. So now I have really backed off. I don't know what to do about this situation. I really like this girl and would like to salvage this and make it turn around. I am thinking she scared herself after the second week because of her past relationships. Anybody have any suggestions or help for this? Anyone every had a similar situation?

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