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writes: I need to get in touch with Mr.Ed he gave me alot of insight into my problem with my depressed ex. What do i do now, wait for him to come to me, is there anything i can do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): What ended up happening as I am now in the same situation. How did it work out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2005): Mr. Ed i don't care what i have to do, i want to be with him. I can't stand to be without him and i have already dealt with this for 2 years and i'm not about to give up now. I will do anything i have to to help him. But the problem is he doesn't have medical insurance and i don't think he will get help. His parents have no idea what is going on so they can't even help him. I send him e-mails telling him that i am there for him and that i love him more than anything in this world, but he told me he must struggle on his own. What am i supposed to do force him to see me. I need to know what to do.
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (19 December 2005):
 Dear just as depressed as her X. First of all think of your letter as HE IS YOUR X. Next the question is do YOU want him to be your X or do you want him to be back? Depression for him is probably perminent. Wanting someone in your life is not permanent. Medication can help him control his depression but at what cost to him? Do you love him enough to deal with his mood swings? Do you wish he was with you day and night and can't stand to be away from him? Are you honestly willing to babysit him day and night for the rest of your life? If you answered yes to all of these questions then WHAT R U waiting for; go tell him. Whenever she tells me she's there; I have retrained myself not to run. It doesn't mean I'm not moody it means I don't hide from her. It is very painful to tell her the truth about the way I feel. It is easy to hide from her because I trust Myself. I wished she would have broken up many times because I wanted to hide my inner feelings. Alas, she just kept coming. Until one day I just gave up. You really need to understand that if you do love him that much IT WILL BE PAINFUL for both of you not just him. He may say he hates you, then why is he really there? He may say he wants someone else, then why is he telling you? He may even say your Fat, then why is he wasting his breath? Because he does'nt know how to control his emotions yet. The light at the end of his tunnel is not bright it's very dark. In time with some serious work he will begin to see it. I have on three occasions even (regretfully)called her my X's name. She cried but not at first, once she grabbed me up by my collar and said "That's the last time you call be a bitch". I got the point! It's much, much, much easier to run than to let some intruder know that your lower than a whale turd. But, only lower on some days and higher than most on others. I don't sleep right when I'm next to her and she complains but, she accepts it. She is now retraining me to sleep more than 4 hours a day or take naps. It's fun sometimes and not so fun others. Anxiety is not funny. Depression is much much worse. It effects your love life, sex life, judgement and ability to have friends. Think of a normal person drunker than a skunk for NO REASON. You could run from him but you did right the second letter because you love him. Simply tell him. That you are their for HIM and are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to let him know you'll always be THERE. YOU want him to confide in you so that you can LISTEN no matter what the problem is.DO NOT JUDGE HIM as it is not his fault for fleeing nor having stupid ideas as you might think. As for that if you get past that Wellbutrin does not effect sexual performance gain weight or cause weirdness. He might want to try it but YOU had better not push him. Good luck. Ed
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