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writes:Let's say you've been working at a place for several years and you've somehow managed to fall in love with a co-worker, and he with you as well, and that you've done this through demonstrations and actions, NOT through verbal communication. Only those of you that this may have happened to could possibly understand how it could happen, and I'm interested in hearing from you because so far there's no sex between us but the messages are clear and the strong attraction is there. It gets to the point where we can feel the other's moods and feelings, and there are expressions and actions between us the only we can interpret, although others can obviously see the attraction between us when they happen to glance at our eye contact as well as our flirty behavior towards each other. Has this ever happened to anyone out there - so strange and bizarre but yet so real (and possibly more real than verbal communication because it's a clear example of how actions speak louder than words). We are both attractive yet shy people and I suppose if things are to go further between us then we'll obviously have to eventually talk with each other. Or, I swear if I am perchance alone with him I'll plant a first kiss on his sweet lips. I've never had anything like this happen to me before, and I don't imagine that it's a common occurrence, and I don't know what to expect next and I really feel the progression of this strange relationship has just begun. Please let me hear from you and where things went.
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reader, kb3 +, writes (26 April 2009):
It's strange timing for me to read this too, I've definitely had some similar experiences. It's hard to find others to talk to about these things because they are by nature hidden, unspoken, hard to make concrete. Anyway, if you want to contact me and chat more privately feel free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): to A strong attraction, this is really strange for me to read. I am going through the same thing my self, except this is been going on for almost 2 years. he always tells me his weekly work schedule and his schedule for his night job, also he tells me how much overtime money he makes and how much he gets paid for his night jobs. He will tell me everything he did the night before and I never ask for this information he just gives it. I know he is intrested in me because i catch him staring and we he sees me noticing he will look away and he has shown some signs of being jealous about certain guys a talk to. We do not work for the same company but we do work in the same building. I wish i knew what to do also. I know he is not seeing any one and he is not married and niether am i. It is nice to know I am not the only one in this situation, we are boht in our late forties and early fifties. If anyone has any advice please help. this is a hard situation to deal with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): honey trust me you want be able to stop with a kiss. its very hard to control yourself after a kiss. i want ask you to expose your username here but you can communicate privately with me. i am displaying my username. if i start getting crazy responses all i have to do is get a new username.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo "reader, anonymous" - thanks sooooo much for your story. It's good to hear someone else understands. I'm still waiting to steal that first kiss with him, but I'm afraid it wouldn't stop at just the kiss. This has been building for over a year now so I have a feeling if we ever caught each other alone we wouldn't be able to control ourselves.
I wish there was a way you and I could communicate privately but obviously neither of us wants to broadcast our usernames. Oh, well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): If the person isnt married or involved with someone and has kids. i say go 4 it. if they do back off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): If you are married don't tell it. I am in the same situation with someone i work with. no sex involved. I ask a question like this and everyone just started critizing me and judging me. and my relationship is just like yours. I love him more than anything. However I have been going on with this 2 years. Stealing kisses i do that too. I can almost let you know that I don't know how it will progress. Everyone's relationship is different. mine is at a standstill right now. we still see eachother but I know that i want to be with him and he says the same with me. and he says he loves me more than anything. the bad part about it is hes married. i have never been with anyone that was married. never been interested in a married man, but with him there is something between us even when we look at each other it's like a magnet. I hope that we will eventually be together but right now I don't know. i'm depending on it. there are just alot of risk involved in my relationship. I understand how you feel. there is no other feeling like that on this earth. But you can believe some one will respond and try to tear you apart with just the little bit you have written. I would let it blow right over your head. They don't know the effect of what true love is. and i honestly believe that what I have is true love. I got a sign at work that says if god brings you to it he is bring you thru it. i read that every day and i always remember that when i look at him. and trust me those stolen kisses there is nothing to replace those. Its not being sneaky but just being together. we have not had sex. but people say having an emotional things is just as bad as physical. I'm playing it by ear right now. I wish you good luck lady.
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