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writes:why do guys get close and then run a mile?? im soooo confused?? guys help me out here for gods sake.!!thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): well, there has to be something wrong here... cause i certainly think that guys are afraid of commitment. i mean, he even got scared when i told him sex is a big deal and there are serious feelings involved. and then he added that he's afraid to lose his freedom. jesus, we just met 2 months ago... i'm not marrying the guy.so something is just not right here. how come guys in real life are (or at least in most cases seem to be) afraid of relationships and guys here in this website aren't?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): I think that both men and women are afraid to commit for one reason or another.
From a man's point of view (one who is not afraid to commit), men want to make sure they are with the right one. Men have a lot to lose in divorce. I have friends going through it right now and they have lost their children, their home, and a lot of their income put towards a life they aren't a part of anymore. What do women have to lose? In most cases, nothing.
Statistics are showing that women initiate 3 out of 4 divorces. Historically speaking, this has been blamed on abuse (mentally or physically) but common sense can tell you that 3 out of 4 men are not abusers and women are just as guilty of abuse. False accusations of abuse scare men because there is no way to protect yourself from that.
Until family courts reach an equilibrium of giving equal opportunity to men for child custody I believe that you will see a decline in men's ambition to marry or even co-habitate.
It's sad because I myself have a lot of faith in true love and a happy marriage but I will do whatever I can to try and avoid the situations my friends are going through right now.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Men arent afraid of commitment, People are. Some women/men will find that one and never want to let go. Some men/woman see the first sign of their lives closing down and will run at the first chance. You just have to find that person who wants to stay
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 When the guys learn that the women are very needy or clingy , insatiable and high maintenance, they will scoot off !
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reader, BlackZer0  +, writes (12 February 2008):
We men aren't afraid of commitment at all, its even on both sides. Women don't want to be hurt and neither do men. I myself have trust problems because I'm always cheated on, I guess I'm a magnet for those kind of women. Both sexes talk down on each other, but neither one is right.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (12 February 2008):
 It seems you are not connecting with the right type of guy that suits your needs, some men react differently to commitment than others, some just want to have a good time and not commit and run away, but i think the majority of mature males tend to look for and want to commit,to a girl friend, maybe you should go to other places to seek a partner, rather that going around your usual haunts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): well im certanly not like that if i ever get hold of the right girl im gonna hang on tight
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