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writes:Hi,My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years a couple of months told me that he wanted a break (whatever that means) at first I was shocked as I thought that we were ok with each other. We have a house together and just a couple of months before we bought a puppy (this I seen as a commitment). I told him he could have his break but as I moved out back to my parents I thought why? I needed answers from him, he just told me that he needed space to think. I was gutted. He kept ringing me 'to see how I was' which I thought was weird. He then rang to tell me come home and that he was sorry. We made up and was good until the weekend when he just went out with his mates and just fobbed me off. When the weekend was over he then asked me back again this carried on for 6 weeks and everytime he said he was sorry and that he was sorry for treating me like crap, and that he loved me, I listened and believed him. In the end I had enough and have moved out for good and the house is now up for sale. I really don't get him, and why he has chucked what we had away for going out with his mates. Does anyone have any answers, a couple of months before we were okay, it just seems all of a sudden he's had enough and just wants the single life again. Why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do think that he just isn't ready for commitment, i really don't think any women are involved as we have the same friends and i would of known about them. I just don't get why all of a sudden he has thought to him self 'justs it i've had enough' and gone back to the single life. it was only a few months ago he was telling me how i'd saved him from that life and telling me stuff he wanted to do to the house and about kids!!!! why say those things if you don't mean them. thats what's really got me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Well it seems that the house and puppy commitments were too much on him. He isn't ready to commit that much right now, he wants to have his fun. Maybe he meets women when he's out with his mates and would like to bring them home, but can't because you're there. maybe he has his fun for a little while with other women, then starts feeling like he wants you back again, then starts missing his fun again, and the cycle just keeps going. This isn't fair on you. You're right to move out. You should find a man who is more mature, and who isn't so flaky and selfish.
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