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writes:My girlfriend has had 3 boob jobs and has DD size breasts. She now wants to get yet another boob job taking her up to ideally F size breasts. I find this too much, not being a fan of fake tits anyway. Yet she has got upset and says she is getting them anyway. Am I being out of order saying no and risking the relationship or should I understand her saying she's unhappy with her body as it is and wanting them bigger?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): Sound like she has some mental problems.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (1 November 2010):
 I personally think she needs to seriously examine why she feels she needs bigger and bigger breasts. Everyone has their free will to decide what to do with their body. It seems that she thinks getting bigger breasts will make her feel better about herself, but after the initial post-op glow has worn off, she feels like her old self again, and thus thinks that having yet bigger breasts will make her happy again.
A lot of people get plastic surgery when they are unhappy within themselves. They think if they had a prettier nose, or bigger boobs or no celulite that they will be perfect and thus their life will be happier. This is not true. It's one thing changing a particular part of your body that has always lowered your confidence, but changing your boobs so that they are out of proportion with your body seems more like trying to fill some void. She needs to learn to love herself for who she is as a person, and not think that having huge boobs will improve her life. DD is already a great size, and having yet more opperations is seriously dangerous.
But of course, it is her life and with the wonders of science, anyone can have whatever bodyshape they desire, if they have the money for the procedures. If this is something she really, really wants, then you may just have to let her get on with it. But try talking to her first to see why having such big boobs is so important to her. I think everyone having such opperations needs to have pre-op counselling to make sure they are having the op for the right reasons, and that the patient does not have body image issues that cannot be helped by non invasive means such as counselling. But unfortunatly surgeons are happy to give this kind of op to any young woman who has the cash and the belief that having bigger boobs will make them more attractive, happier, more femanine etc.
Ultimatly all you can do is let her know you love her, find her very attractive just as she is, and explain that you cannot understand why she feels she needs bigger boobs as you think she is perfect as she is. This may make her think twice, it might not, if she's set on it. Just let her know you support her whatever her decision, it's her body, but you are entitled to tell her that you don't think she needs another op. That's your opinion and as her boyfriend you should be honest about it. But at the end of the day it's her body and her choice.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Wow, well if you're the one who has been paying for her boob job then I would refuse to do so the fourth time around. Ultimately, she's going to do what she wants since it's her body..Hopefully, her plastic surgeon will educate her about the risks involved. Your girlfriend sounds like one of those people who are obsessed with their looks but will never be truly happy with what they see in the mirror. Which is rather sad, but hey we all have our insecurities. I'm afraid you're going to have to stand by and let her get her fourth surgery.
You never know, the doctor may be able to talk her out of those big honkers, or say she does end up with them, then she'll realize all the back aches that go with them, how she'll have to be XL size shirts in order to cover them, and pretty soon she'll be contemplating a reduction.
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