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*ncognito79
writes:So it seems that I'm going to be 28 soon, it's been 6 years that I have asked that infamous question "why am I single" and to this date, I'm still clueless. I remain single, virgin, daily masturbation routine, and pretty-much forced to live life within my own thoughts and ideas.I enjoy my work; it keeps my satisfied and captivated, I moved into my own home last year, I'm pretty-much independent and I manage to get whatever I want to get done, well, done! The only thing I don't get is myself and relationships. I mean, counseling others in intense relationship situations is a piece of cake as compared to making sense of my own predicaments.So, I ask; I was recently cornered into a situation one night with a friend in my car; she was set to make-out, and by the 2nd stroke of her hand through my hair and face, I had lost all sense of reason and succumbed. This lasted a good 45 minutes, and she started hinting on going back to my place, and it's at that point where I found back my consciousness and decided to halt everything. The night ended-up with both of us going to our respectful homes, and me being beyond confused.What happened? Is it normal to be 28, a virgin, and scared beyond hope? Yes, I definitely have trust issues that should be sought-out through counseling, but I'm curious to read what real-people have to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): Let me give you an advise: "The only things one regret, are the things one hevn't done". I always keep this saying in my mind in different situations and guess what - since I used this sentence I have no regrets :) So don't be shy next time, or even better - create simular situation by your own in example when you see a beautiful girl lonely by the bar just talk to her. In some cases they might say "go away" :) but after a few attempts one of them will be happy to talk to you...
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 Sounds like a page from my book, its scary. I lost my virginity at a late stage, so i can see where you are coming from. The first time will always be a (scary) moment especially because of your age but once that first hurdle is beaten, maybe your confidence will improve. Unfortuantly i lost someone very close to me because of this inability to open up in that way. So when you do find that person you want to trust consider telling them of your situation, becuase if they are experienced they will be able to tell. (unless you have a natural gift!) It does sound to me like counselling might be an option for you, but its important for you to gain your confidence in yourself again and start to trust others around you. Finding the right person is also important, so don't think you have to rush into anything, make sure your doing it all for the right reasons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): You are more normal than you think *wink*
A lot of people make out they are MUCH more sexually experienced than they really are. Girls and Guys.
I think that once you meet a girl you trust, things will just fall into place. You'll be swinging together from the chandeliers before you know it. Dusting them of course!
And as for the sex thing: Don't worry: It can be pretty overrated!
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