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writes:I am 27 years old ,never been married and I want to have a baby... I fear I may never meet anyone who will want to marry me and have children and I turn 28 this year so time is ticking.. its not like i've put it on hold, I've always wanted a family... but it hasn't happened, What can I do to make this happen for me? Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I'm a bit older than you and in a similar situation... I'm not desperate for a baby but I do worry about life passing me by.
There's still time, though. My mom was 34 when she had me (my dad was 29). Then they had my bro almost four years later. Everything turned out okay... they completely forgot that I existed, but no health problems, thankfully.
I'm fairly sure that I do NOT want children. I LOVE my parents, but if they tell me one more time that they want grandkids, I'm gonna shoot myself... :( I've worked in the public schools where I live, and 99 percent of the kids are BRATS. My experiences have scarred me for life and now I never want kids.It's so nice to come home to a German Shepherd instead.
I'm 99 percent sure, but I can relate to your feelings.
I haven't completely ruled it out; sometimes I feel that little vestige of doubt grawing at me, and I worry that my life will pass me by, too.
I did a teaching internship in Mexico and the kids were so cute and sweet and sometimes I wondered what it would be like to have a kid of my own. If you're not a 100% sure, though, it's a mistake.
However, it seems that you're 100% sure. You're just worried about finding the right person.
I've decided that I would only CONSIDER having a kid, IF I have the stability in my life and IF I'm married to someone I love.
I mean no offense to anyone and I'm not condemning anyone but I feel that kids do need to have a mother and a father in their lives.
The most important thing is your education and ability to provide everything for a kid. That has to be in place before you have kids... stability in your life and a position to provide the quality of life a kid deserves.
I feel like my life is passing my by sometimes, and I am a chronic worrier. I'm not sure if this is a good option but you could look into having some of your eggs frozen.
My advice to you is to get everything in place in your life... good career, finances, if you have not done so yet. Then, I would go to places where you can meet people with similar values. Have you tried online dating? Where are some other places you could meet someone?
Good luck y que te sea leve
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want a child of my own.. nothing against adoption but I want the whole experience.. I've been considering doing it alone but I want the "ideal"... its just I've don't know how to get to that level in a relationship to get to that point..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): Hi
I feel just the same.
I am 26 and turn 27 this year, ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and have n not moved anywhere as we where both students and are both still living at home because we have debts to pay off, we both have jobs but i only have a part time one.
I feel like time is passing me away, and i want a baby too, i had a miscarrige last year, and since then i have never wanted a baby more.
I am on the pill, but most mornings i think to my self, shall i come off them and just try and get pregnant, i dont wanna be an old mum, plus loadsa my friends have had babies now too.
Its so hard but i do sympathise with you.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 I always said to myself that if I never found a guy I really wanted to marry I'd still go ahead and have children. I did however fall in love and we have three lovely children and now 6 and soon to be 7 grandkids. I can't imagine raising these kids by myself. I wonder if I really would have gone ahead and purposely been a single parent. Having both parents is considered the ideal scenario but I've seen children raised by one parent turn out just great. I only thing that will be hard for you is that when you are sick or tired there will not be anyone to "spell" you so you can get some rest. It is after all a 24-7 job. If you have support from family and friends and are financially able to handle it then maybe go for it. Have you considered adopting?
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