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writes:(Moderator’s note: two questions combined)Im 18 years old and i have been with my partner for just over a year now, Before i met him i was in a bad place and was on the rebound i guess due to having my heartbroken from the first boy i ever loved, then he made me happy and i felt like my life was getting better, i felt safe and so happy...But these past months things have just changed i told him this but he said he feels nothing has changed. the only time we actually seem to spend time together is when we are having sex, there just aint no communication anymore, he gets home from work and just falls asleep all the time, it would be nice if he even spoke to me.lately all i seem to do is cry, he cant be making me happy if all im doing is crying. he still hugs me and kisses me all the time and tells me he loves me but there just aint no talk, my confidence is at its all time low right now, i never see my mates anymore, im constantly stuck in the house, it is just the same old routine everyday with me and him and im tired of it. i should of left him a long time ago but im terrified of being alone, but i think right now it would do me good to sort my life out and be away from him because i cant deal with him anymore, i want to find a job, get out of the house and start living my life, im still young, he is 25 and i feel like i have no life anymore, i love him though thats whats stopping me, and i also know if i end it, i wont see his face ever again and i dont think i could bare that. do you think i should get my life on track and ditch him? or should i just stay in this same dull old routine? im just so confused i cant even think thats why im asking for some advice.Im 2 months pregnant, Im only 18 and im stuck in a rut in a unhappy relationship, i want to leave my boyfriend and get rid of the baby but he loves me so much and really wants this baby, i dont want to break his heart. one minute i want this baby and tell myself it will all be okay, then the next i just dont know how to deal with it. He loves me but he just aint here for me that much, now i feel as if this is the end of my life...i dont have the slightest idea on how to look after a baby, i have never been maternal at all, i just think i would make a crap mum. i love babies but i just think i wouldn't be a good mother so its making me worry and my emotions are all over the place right now, also been really moody towards my boyfriend, been snapping at him and making nasty remarks, i do this because he said the other day "there are 3 main things in my life, thats drink, drugs and you" it just really angered me...im not sure i want to bring a baby into this world when all he does is put drink and drugs first, sometimes i feel like leaving him and having the baby without him in my life, i just dont know what to do and feel really alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): Wow are situation is quite the same. See mu husband left me eight months ago. I met a terrific guy who made me smile amd laugh again. make a long story short Im two months pregnant as well. I dont know if I want the baby or not. Now my husband wants me back and wants me to abort. I been confused my self. But in your case, the relationship is farely new and now you see the things that you don't like. Now you have to consider do you want to continue and raise your baby around this man. I have a six year old daughter and i was scared at first but the mother thing comes natural. You will be just fine. You have to be smart you cant leave this man if you don't have any money or a place to stay. If you have family go stay with them and see if they are willing to help you. I really wish you the best.
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