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writes: Ok help. I'm 18, been in a very solid relationship for 2 years and everythings great. We're moving in together soon and everything. But I'm craving for a baby. I know I'm young and not exactly financially stable and all, but I really want a baby. I would never sabotage contraception or do anything stupid, but how can I stop feeling so broody?Help!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): i think that your outlook on the baby thing is great and that your not going to do anything daft.i think also thinking about the financial aspect is very mature of you to be thinking about. i was very broody at 16 and never thought of anything like that,now im 28 and were trying for a baby but its been 2 years and im going to hospital for tests which is crushing when your very broody. i havnt been able to stop the broodyness but things i have avoided have helped somtimes but not always.avoid watching anything with babys in,dont search for things about babys on the internet.you might be feeling very emotional as i am and just looking at baby grows and cots make me weep. talking to my partner helps in knowing that hes there for me even though he doesnt completely understand, try and aviod things with any baby related things in it if that starts making you think about wanting a baby more.baby7 are a huge responsibility and are very costly,i dont think anyone can be fully ready for a baby even if there trying.but at least you can prepare for such an event in the future.getting yourself stable, financialy and emotionally,because i think if you do decide to have a baby in the future every possible angle of bringing a baby into the world has been stabalized for the benifit of any future child...im sorry about waffling on, i hope this has helped you, and hope it helps anyone else that maybe feeling like us.. i know im not the only one that feels like this but i do know how alone you can feel. best of luck with everything my regards x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2006): Hi. I'm 18 and have been in a great loving relationship for 3 years now. I'm so glad i found someone who feels the same way that i do. Too scared to tell people how broody i am incase i'm judged because of my age. We can't help how we feel and i know it's natural but i can't help but feel im alone in that all the other girls i know my age don't seem to be feeling the way i am. The only person who knows about my broodiness is my boyfriend who is understanding. Yet we're worlds away from being financially stable enough to support a child. I don't have any advice of my own. I just want to say youre really not alone and I'm glad i found someone my age to be feeling the same way. xXx
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reader, bellachic385 +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Babies are great, but at 18 and not financially stable having one is not the best idea. Food, dipers,toys, a room are needed as well as time and money to suport the child. Your freedom as a teen will be given up. Age is not the only factor but this might be takin away once you look at how much work and time is pput into this. Look into it before you do anything. Good luck.
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 My suggestion is to live with your bf for at least 6 months (trust me you find out a lot about people once you move in). Regardless of age or finance the most important things is if the childs parents are happy, and a unit. I would suggest waiting for your bf and you to get financially stable and set jobs because stress can skyrocket when you can't feed your baby properly or get him/her into a good preschool. I don't feel there is anything wrong with younger people having children if they truly are ready... maybe work at a day care, summer camp, preschool and see if you can actually take it... you may be unpleasantly suprised at how much work a cute little baby is. I've known 17 year olds who were the absolute best moms and 30 year olds who werent suited for motherhood whatsoever so it depends on the person...just know what you are getting yourself into. That means a lot less freedom, and a lot more responsibility.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 October 2006):
 How about you start buying little baby things for a "Hope Chest" or maybe make a few things yourself. It will help you funnel that baby wish into something productive while you wait for the right time to bring baby into the world. They are wonderful but should always have all the advantages that you can give them so don't hurry.
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reader, jessekk69  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 theres nothing wrong with wanting a baby. i always really wanted one when i was little and used to pretend my dolls were real babies.. long story short. i'm 18, dont have much money, a loving husband (we got married in march)a supportive family and two beautiful (yes maybe un planned, but i dont care) little boys, who i love so much, and dont regret having one bit. there perfect. i had my first when i was 16, he's 18months old now and my second when i was 17 hes 4months.and i plan to have at least 3 more. talk to you partner, show him that things wont change apart from you'll just have a little person to be proud off and to love millions. you may be suprised what he says. anyway it take time for a baby to be concieved so you may get to wait for things to change so you can feel happier to brig a baby into the world.
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reader, Fernikle +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Hello Pet. First of all, rid yourself of any ideas that you are being stupid. You have feelings and they are real to you and making you un-happy. I'm glad to see that you are not silly enough to sabotage contraception, and you also recognise you are not financially stable enough to provide for a child yet. (If the truth be known, you never are financially ready enough.)
Your age is a real factor in this as you've reached sexual maturity in your design and procreation is a naturally occuring desire we cannot help. This happens at different times for people. Unfortunately, many people use a baby as a meal ticket to not work. This gives us a validly recognised excuse not to work.
You need to channel this energy from your desire into something productive for now. You say you are moving into a place together soon. Why not use this baby desire to make your new place comfortable. Or howabout enroling into a college course to stimulate another interest within you. You really need to get your home ready for a baby anyway. It would be an added stress if you were pregnant when moving.
On top of all this advice for yourself.....what does your much-belove'd think about the baby feelings?
Good luck,
Mwah X
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