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writes:arghhh. im 16 and have never been kissed. its really putting me down as all of my friends have and they are starting to sleepwith their boyfriends. its really upsetting me that i cant get anyone. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): i am 16 and i kissed a guy for the first time a few weeks ago and im go glad i waited til now!i waited for a guy i love and instead of it being a drunken kiss at a party it meant something.Just cause your 16 doesnt mean you have to have sex or be kissed.Your friends probably havnt done anything but think theyre the only ones who havent.wait for the right guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): Look at it this way. You can always get like them, but never again can they be like you. Sex is overrated, and exploited. I'm 15 and have never been kissed (not by lack of opportunity, rather by choosing not too). I mean your in high school, are you willing to give up your virginity in order A) Let him use you as a semen dump, and B) Get at the most 10 seconds of pleasure off of what for you could be an unpleasant experience. I mean what's the chance that your friend's boyfriends will be them when they've graduated? I'll tell you what my brother once said " No guy really wants to marry his whore, if he did he's have to tell his son not to kiss his mother in the mouth." (Not to put down on anyone in a "deeply committed relationship" or anything. I'm just saying that to say that to say that 5 years down the road from now, some guy you really, really like, might have a problem dealing with "your past'. If you want to check that just type in "her past" in the search bar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): im 16 too, i had my first kiss when i was 14, with a guy i didnt even go with. im still a virgin and proud of it, but i wish i had the chance to take that kiss back cause it didnt mean a thing. wait till you find the right guy, trust me, you'll be glad you've waited for that special moment.
if you wanna talk more about it feel free to message me, good luck xxx
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reader, Alone_again +, writes (1 December 2008):
Ohayou.
I totaly agree! Most of the guys I hang around wid are people Id NEVER date. You just need to find a guy that you feel is more than a friend x
Atode- Later
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 When you're young you forget that you have your entire life ahead of you. Don't feel you have to rush just because everyone else is doing it. Don't even discuss this with others and they won't know you aren't doing the same.
It will happen when you meet the right boy. Perhaps none of these boys appeal to you at the moment? Also, when there is a group of people who know each other, they tend to get in the way of your personal and private affairs. You might actually be avoiding a lot of drama and problems and heartbreak by waiting till you find the right guy.
You have your entire life to be sexual. In the mean time, why not concentrate on what you want to do for a living once you leave home? Anyhow, nothing is wrong with you. From all the posts here a lot of kids are from your country and seem way too young to be getting mixed up in all this drama and complications.
Have fun while you can and try not to focus on all of that for now. My experience is, when you do meet someone it is best to keep them separate from friends! Even adults try to meddle and interfere and gossip.
Love isn't a contest. Hopefully you are interested in a field that you can put your energies into...which is the best way to meet someone later.
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reader, Bubblegum +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Don't worry. Its perfectly normal. Some people dont kiss anyone until theyre alot older. To be honest you need to wait until uve got a boyfriend. You don't want to share your first kiss with some guy your not with. And when the time comes both you and the guy will feel special. To be honest I envy you, it would be nice to experience a first kiss again. Don't let it make you feel bad chick.
If you need to talk then e-mail me. I'm here if you need me.
Much love
Bubblegum xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): I lost my virginity at a very young age because everyone else was doing it and have ALWAYS regretted it.
It led me to have very unhealthy realtionships with boy's and men thinking that sleeping with them was no big deal and that they would stay with me if i had sex with them.
This unhealthy attitude towards sex made me feel dirty and used.
I'm not saying don't have sex i'm just saying there is no need to rush. You certainly shouldn't be doing it just because everybody else is.
When you meet a guy you really like you he will be able to be your first and that can be something really special.
I wish with all my heart i had waited.
What ever you do please be safe and please don't do anything cause everbody else is.
xxxxx
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