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writes:Hi, I'm 15 years old and my mom is already is thinking of me having kids!! Almost every day when i come home from school she asks me if I'm still a virgin, and obviously i say yes(the thing is my mom wants to arrange me with someone from our culture/country) so she's looking for people to come here for me.She talked to this one guy she liked, and wants me to have total sex with him while she's in the house [one strict mom, she doesn't want me to be with someone I know who is not from our culture].So 4 months ago I met this guy I really liked. He asked me out and I said yes. I told my mom about him and she totally freaked out. She even banned me from seeing him, but when she was at work late I invited him over to talk to him, and then we started kissing, and then we started doing IT! We did not use protection, and I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks ago. I feel weird and I am starting to show a bit. My mom will kill me if she finds out. I already told my bf. He says he will be there for me but i think he is kind of scared of my mom. So what do i do.....
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reader, justnicky  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 i was in your shoes back in october of 2010. i am 16 and pregnant. although i do wish my bf was as supportive. well anyways. i just sat my mom down one day while watchin tv and said "mom i'm pregnant." she wasn't pissed but i could tell she wasn't happy. she got used to the idea and is now semi ok with it. i hope your mom does the same. :)best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): My advise is talk to a school counselor or your doctor. I don't know if you guys have planned parenthood's around you, but you could talk to a counselor there and try to figure a way to talk to your Mom. You need to tell her though, you can't keep it a secret forever one day the baby will need to come out. You need all the proper nutrition and vitamins too. You must tell your mom, but really think about it first so you know best how to tell her. Like I said try talking to a counselor first. Your Mom may be mad at first, but she will have to come around. Good Luck!
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reader, kashmir  +, writes (28 February 2011):
I think you should go and see your doctor as soon as you can. You are far too young at 15 to be having a baby and you have a range of options and support/counselling services to help you. Tell your doctor about your mums wishes for arranging you to be with someone from you culture. It sounds like you are being pressured into something you are not willing to go ahead with? And yes, tell your mum what has happened - she will eventually suss you out anyway and it wont be long before you are very noticeably pregnant. If you're mum wont help you, seek help from a close relative or friend who you know you can trust to help you out. They can also go with you to the Doctors and seek further advice. Its good your boyfriend will be there for you and keep him involved, but it sounds like you are both way too young to be taking on the responsibility of a baby. You are ONLY 15 and have your life ahead of you. You learn from your mistakes, I wish you all the best for the future.
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reader, Imboredsoillhelppeople +, writes (28 February 2011):
Talk to your boyfriend and ask him wether you want to bort or not, if you agree yes your mom dosnt have to find out, if no then tell your mom and beg her not to get mad, if she does pretend to have a mood swing and be all depressed around her till she can't take it (overbearing moms fall for this quite quite fast so it shouldn't be long)
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