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writes:After 10 years in a kind of "platonic" relationship with a woman 40 years younger than I am,I am wondering if i am wasting my time.We are entirely compatible and anticipate meeting once a week plus exchanging E-Mails and phone calls.We love each other but she does not feel romantic towards me and I have been controlling myself.After two failed marriages,perhaps this is the way to go.It has lasted 10 years!! Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all four of you who answered honestly!A few other comments:she is very picky about whom she wants for a life companion,does not like the idea of always having to answer to questions by her mate,likes her independence,wants to form her own company.She "came on" to me ten years ago,but I have a feeling that she put on the brakes right away as far as being romantic because of the huge age difference.Whenever we are apart,even for a week,she misses me terribly,even wanting to call me to hear my voice etc.I personally feel:hey,I've had two failed marriages.Maybe this is the way to go when we ALWAYS are excited about seeing each other and are totally compatible and comfortable with each other.She tells me I am NEVER boring,unlike wife #1 who harped on it constantly.The stickler for me is that it's REALLY tough as far as my masculinity is concerned.Thanks for any other comments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): You can bet your life she only sees it as a platonic relationship. Excuse me if this sounds harsh, but 40 years age difference is a heck of an age gap. You're old enough to be her grandfather!! It seems creepy to be going for someone so much younger.
Look for a woman your own age, someone whom you can share common interests with and have a real relationship with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Old man, you are wasting your time. This girl does not love you, and probably sees you like a friend or a father figure, not a sex worthy man. You have a better chance of scoring with your previous wives than her.
What's even worse, you've had about 10 years of time to "prove yourself" to her that you are indeed sex worthy, but obviously you've only fallen 10 years deeper into the friend category.
This is your wake up call!!! You only have a few years left in your life anyways, at least try to get some other women, believe me in all sincerity you have a better chance with them.
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