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*aelyn
writes:I met my current husband 8 months ago. We started dating and with in 4 months he asked me to move in with him. With in 6 weeks of living together he asked me to marry him and I said Yes. Both of our families were shocked but his family seemed very upset with our relationship. They have called me a gold digger, told him that I would leave him (because I am 25 and he is 36). It has caused a lot of problems between him and his family. No matter what I do to prove how madly in love I am with him it just seems to get worse with them. We were engaged for 3 months when we got married, One of his brothers refused to come to our wedding, his sister wont even speak to me and I just see him drifting away from his family more and more because he is always sticking up for me. He keeps saying that he loves me and that he doesnt care what they think , but I do. I dont want to be the reason there are problems with him and his family . What can I do to show them that I love him and that our relationship is real? Is there any way for me to make thigns better between him and his family?
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 You sound pretty rational. Good luck =]
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reader, kaelyn +, writes (23 July 2009):
kaelyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I agree our relationship moved very quickly. But I did think alot about it, We discused every decision we made before just jumping into it. When he first asked me to marry him we both agreed on a long engagement but after talking about it more and more we realize that we do love each other so why wait. I have never been more sure about anything in my whole life. I am not saying that our relationship is perfect and we will live a fairy tale life. I know that all relationships/ marriages need work and that there will be tought times for us. But we are willing to put the time and work into our relationship to make it work. I have no palns on leaving my husband just because his family doesnt like me. I do hope that some day they can see that our love is real, if not they will just have to understand I am not going any where .
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (23 July 2009):
If you leave him because of his family you will only be reinforcing their opinions of you. And who he sticks up for is his choice and he's chosen you so be happy! The only thing that will prove you to them is time. Be faithful and stick around, and keep making him happy for as long as you can.
You've probably had this a lot but I have to ask you, you jumped into this very quickly, are you 100% sure that this is what you want?
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