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*ad eyed gurrl
writes:I am twenty seven and have been with a man 22yrs my senior for three years, i feel like i'm no longer what he desires or is interested in.. We dont conversate and our sex life has nearly stopped. What can i do to bring our once vibrant funfilled, loving, affectionate relationship back to life? Please help before its too late....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Is he still seeing his wife sometimes/most of the time????
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (29 May 2012):
Have you asked him about HIM? About his feelings or what he is going through? Have you still tried to talk to him without attacking him? I mean something must have changed but there isn't much to really work on. If nothing changes then you should just dump him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): Sadly this is the reality of such a big age gap. 22 years age difference and he is in another zone. Has different priorities. Different likes/dislikes. Different sex fulfilment issues.
Babes you are in your prime or when you hit 30 you will be. You are still adventurous and want to live your life to the fullest. He has already done that, he now wants to take it easy. Wants to slow the pace. Wants to just enjoy his retirement(??)(Lol) years. Boredom setting in. Routine and mundane life. Perhaps your relationship has hit its ceiling?
You say you both have been unfaithful. So perhaps he's lost interest because he is getting his action else where?
I don't know what the true answers are but suffice it to say, if you both cheated, sex died down, no common interests, slowly seeing this relationship die, then decision need to be made.
Sometimes Older partners sometimes get that extra energy from their younger partners. They have a zest for life, remain young and vibrant. Other older partners just shrivell away and accept the mundane life choices, making no effort to improve. Age is just a number but sometimes that huge age gap is a relationship killer.
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reader, Sad eyed gurrl +, writes (29 May 2012):
Sad eyed gurrl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe isnt one for talking about things really.. I feel as if im screaming out for him but he doesnt hear my cry for help.. Our past has its dark sides of infadelity on both parts.. He use to be so loving and affectionate and caring and made me feel as if i were the only woman in his world... Now... Its all i can do and more @ times just to get him to know i exist... Ive tried everything... Is it too late to save my relationship or should i stick it out and try more..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): Are you saying you start dating this guy at the age of 5?
Maybe find out what he's interested in and maybe you should strike a conversation with him. Maybe you can ask him out to dinner and find out what is exactly bothering him. Do you feel he's seeing someone else?
Wish you luck
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Tell him your idea of a good relationship is that the fun lovingm affectionate part of the relationship does not stop. Ask him what changed. Are there underlying issues in the relationship? Do you feel like the relationship is going nowhere? Is the relationship serving him more than it's serving you? Perhaps the kiss of death, and the fear of losing you is the only way to revive it.
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