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writes:Me and my girlfriend split up at the start of the year after being together on and off for 16 months, we have a little boy who was a couple of months old back then and is now 6 months old, at first I didn’t feel we would last if we got back together as she had split up with me so many times before and usually had gone on dates only days after doing so. She did try and get back with me but I was stupidly stubborn, but it was just the fact that she had believed other people over what I said to many times and I just wanted to stand my ground. Time went on, I really started to miss her, I had my lil boy every weekend and it was great but I missed her, so after probably 6 weeks I started trying to get her back but she wouldn’t have any of it! She was going out every week and I suppose it was her break so she could! She started falling for someone else…..and she knew how I felt time went on 8 weeks, nine and so on and I didn’t give up and used to drop her at her friends where she stayed on the weekend and pick her up after, take them out as a family etc, we then started to get on and had sex she explained before hand that is was just sex, immediately after she texted this other man, and upon addressing it I was really annoyed but continued because I know how I felt! A week later she decided it was me she wanted and I was pleased but she had explained she liked us both and after a rather big row I found out she had slept with this other man on one occasion but she did say is was crap etc of course as you would in her position though. I loved her and said I wasn’t bothered I had our son on the weekend after just getting back together she wanted to goo out…low and behold she saw him out, and called me while out to say she loved me and didn’t know what she had seen in him, later on she explained how not only that but she dad seen him with other girls that night. All this talking about him really did annoy me and the continual texts off him she was getting! It did eventually stop but the whole event weeks on is still playing on my mind. I found out through doing something I shouldn’t that they had slept together 3days after we had, after a night out, at her friends house and this sounds very silly but she had made a bid effort because ive seen the pictures from the night out and the day after the under clothes she worn (it wouldn’t bother me if she was like this with me) and she had even called me in the middle of the night accusing me of pranking her, after that I asked where she was and said she had gone her friends to fetch her bank card, I just asked her to text me and let me know she was home safe. I never got a message and upon taking our son back on the Sunday she was very grumpy and tired! I wasn’t stupid but I wanted to know the truth, I know everyone wont agree but when your in the situation that’s how you feel and the continual lies I kept/keep getting make it very hard to trust even thought she said it was just to protect my feelings because at this time my dad was very ill in hospital aswell, and she didn’t want me knowing she was meeting him, staying at her friends and he was aswell etc even though I was taking her and picking her up. (I felt abit used upon finding all this out)? Few weeks later and Im still finding it hard to come to terms with im worried she will think she had made the wrong choice, when she goes out im worried something will happen as her best friend is going out with his. I don’t seem to be able to do right for wrong, she doesn’t really want to come close and most of the time pushes me away. I want to make us work but im not sure how to move on and forget the whole thing, especially when she has lads continually textin her and is very secretive about her phone. I know I really have no right as she was single at the time and could do what she wanted but I just feel so hurt over the whole thing.I just want to know if anyone has any suggestions on anything please let me know ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate your replies and thanks 4 taking the time and effort to do them! she is in her early twenties but she is a really great mom...honest...shes brill!!its just towards me lol...she isnt an easy person to talk to and i doubt she would even respond if i tried to confront her about how im feeling she would just storm off or not talk2 me!that is y is so difficult because i like to share a get things out in the open
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Vow, it is like reading a very sad love story! I have empathy with you. From what I have read, this girl really messed you around, used you and is taking advantage of your emotions and kind heartedness.
If I may ask, how old is she? Does she work?Who is she staying with and who takes care of the baby?
I suggest you should talk to her;
BUT, I mean like a serious heart to heart; she either has to stop her childish games and commit to a serious relationship with you;
OTHERWISE
I suggest, you forget about her, stop beign her taxi and MOVE ON;
sure stay in touch with your son;
But start dating, find somebody that will vaue you; love you and RESPECT you!
Enough is enough; this girl must grow up and face the responsibilty of being a mother if nothing else;
Don't let her continue "playing" with you like this!
Be strong and good luck!
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